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[–] Kbin_space_program@kbin.social 116 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Don't use dating apps, they're not worth your time.

If you're a guy you're going to be doing all of the messaging and conversational work almost all of the time.

Just go get a hobby that involves meeting up with people and something will happen organically. Also you'll be happier and get better interpersonal skills.

[–] Rolder@reddthat.com 70 points 2 years ago (3 children)

But all of my hobbies are total sausage fests

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

But make friends with someone that has female friends.

That's the only route in, in that case.

[–] fubbernuckin@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

You see, this assumes women exist. I haven't seen one of them in years, I'm convinced they're extinct.

[–] bhamlin@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Might be worthwhile to investigate if you like sausage then...

[–] MindSkipperBro12@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Better start learning to like it

[–] Kbin_space_program@kbin.social 4 points 2 years ago (2 children)

What are your hobbies if you don't mind me asking?

[–] KrankyKong@lemmy.ml 46 points 2 years ago
[–] Rolder@reddthat.com 13 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Let’s see… Video games, weeb shit, 3D printing with some dabbling in attempting to paint the prints, reading (weeb shit), occasional gym. That’s the main set

[–] Kbin_space_program@kbin.social 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Video games: depending on the game, you can easily find a lot of women. MMOs tend to have a lot on my experience, although they tend to guild up together due to either gamer stereotypes and/or bad
experiences, so finding the guilds may by tricky. Just be nice, honest and honestly friendly, they'll find you.

Maybe try to 3d Print some anime models, paint them, put up on social media, you might even start getting requests if you finish them well enough. My GF and her friends hoard anime stickers like I used to do with magic cards as a kid.

Weeb shit: biggest Manga consumer I know is a late 20s woman with several thousand books in her personal collection. They're out there.

Hell, even just getting out into your local pokemon go group will get you out of the house, and frankly I know more women who (still) play that than men.

[–] Rolder@reddthat.com 5 points 2 years ago

Yeah anime models are what I’ve been trying to paint. But hot damn do I need more practice before I even consider showing them around

[–] Zaphod@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 2 years ago

You could try Bouldering, there's usually a lot of women and getting starting a social interaction isn't too hard when working on a problem together

[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Pro tip go play volleyball. Tons of hot, fit (and usually asian) girls in tight shorts, high percentage of weeks too because of haikyuu and the men:women ration is often positive too.

Like I'm not going to say I'm drowning in pussy, but I've had a couple different girls ask me out who I would consider out of my league.

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Yeah that's terrible advice. Women don't like to be hit on at the gym, it's creepy to do it. They're not going there to be social they're going there for the same reason that you're supposed to be there for your health for fitness.

Hit on people where they are in a social situation.

[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

I never said to hit on them? Just go, be a normal social person and shit will develop naturally.

[–] FlihpFlorp@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

It’s how I kinda met my girlfriend and our 1 year anniversary is coming up in a few month so I must be doing something right

But we had two college classes and we’re both like “this person is so weird I should hang out with them” and we had a lot in common and eventually our friendship turned into dating