My man needs treatment, not tough love.

This is true for so many things. Tough love rarely works for anyone, for any reason. I can't wait for the day when it's no longer so deeply ingrained in American culture as the answer to every single problem. It can really fuck people up far worse than they were to begin with, especially kids. I don't know what the fuck people are thinking when they decide that treating someone like crap will make them a better person.