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Are dating apps uniquely challenging for us?
(lemmy.world)
even for normal people they're not really designed with human joy in mind....but GOD it's miserable trying to start a real thing just from cold texting
i mean look at this what the fuck am i doing. the phrase 'pissing in the wind' comes to mind
I personally had found it very difficult, and it absolutely destroyed my mental health (it was essentially the trigger for me to get therapy).
Granted my mental health wasn't great to begin with.
You should have good photos. Like get a professional photographer if you can afford it, otherwise YouTube tutorials and a friend/camera timer. The picture is the first thing people see and their choice of whether to read the message at all or scroll onto the next person will depend on the photo.
I had minimal matches for 2-3 years taking my own photos, like between 1-3 I think. I asked my buddy's GF to take some pictures of me playing with their dogs, and asked her to choose which ones went up from a woman's perspective. Not my first choices but it was a complete 180 for me. Had matches within the week, and I'm currently dating my last match from 4 years ago.
It is difficult, but it's workable.