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poor Evan rip lil buddy
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He is kinda more into it now to be honest, but he did refuse at first. Maybe it was the length of the stories... they were't that lengthy, but maybe lengthy for him (as I said, he hates to have to turn on his brain... he's not stupid, I can tell from other things, things he likes doing, but he just refuses to turn on his brain "on command", i.e. when we're trying to learn something new).
I just hate how parents are nowadays to be honest... everything is considered child abuse π. It's a white lie that will probably get the kids to engage in the learning process. With time, they'll probably learn to like it.
Like my kid, I also believe part of the reason why he didn't like it was authority. He just hates authority, he likes doing whatever it is he's doing and boss people around to fetch things for him. We did that for a while, but then started to realize, no matter how you look at it, this kid is the boss of us, not the other way around. So, we decided to switch tactics. That did not go well most of the time. So, we decided to start lying to him about stuff like this. It works about 30, 40% of the time. You do another 20% with threats (no candy/TV/whatever if you don't do this), the rest is done with mind games (how would you feel if I did this or this).
He's just really stubborn and likes doing things his way. God forbid you show/help him to do something new, like tie shoe laces for example. He saw you do it and he wants to have a go at it, on his own. That's cool and all, but son, let me help you, you'll learn it faster. Nope, no way π. And then you have to watch him fail for about 30 minutes, moaning, crying, etc. all of that... and then he comes to you for help π... and he learns it in 2 minutes after I show him how, slowly, and he has a chance to see what's really going on, instead of just watching that thing happen in fast motion. It just takes a lot more time, that's my real beef with that... not to mention the crying and moaning and screaming... it just ruins the mood of what could have been a very positive learning experience. But hey, things are what they are π€·. He's still my kid and I love him to death βΊοΈ.