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this post was submitted on 08 Jul 2023
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I'm really sorry you're going through this. Much sympathy for trying to juggle this.
You've come out to your mum. Take a step back and appreciate that you did this. You found the strength to do it and you've done it. Take another moment to stay with this thought. Congratulations. Well done. You did it.
How she deals with it now is a her-thing. How your other people deal with it will be them-things. Just like your mum's reaction says more about her than it does about you, your mum's reaction also says more about her than how your other people will react.
Since her dad is a really vocal ally, you could try approaching him with a request for his help. Something like "Grandpa, I need your help. I told Mum I'm gay and she said I'm too young to know." This will hopefully put him in ally mode, rather than worried parent scared of what you'll face in this difficult world, and it would provide him with a useful course of action. People tend to like useful courses of action.
Does this sound like a good enough plan? I have life and youth work experience but you know your people best.
Whatever you choose to do, we're all here to support you as you find your way.
The issue is more saying the words they get bottled up in my throat.
fair enough. how about writing something?