Yeah... ok. I see. :|

The way I see it, coming out is not a matter of if, but when. I used to think it was private, that I didn't need to come out... but then one day I got into a huge public fight with my family about politics (my family has huge far right tendency and my father is basically a Nazi), it got messy, I was hurt and I came out here and there.

We're not on good terms, my father and I. At all. But I'm adult, living far from them. I felt alone and it was painful, but at least I was out of his reach, he couldn't influence or affect anything other than my feelings.

If that would've happened when I was a minor, still living with them? Who knows what kind of shit would've went down.

So based on what you're telling me, I'd say that you have to be strong. It sounds like you're the oldest? Protect your siblings, they may say and do dumb shit, but if you have their back, chances are, they'll remember it.

For your coming out? I'd say: Keep it in. As long as you're a minor and not independent from them.

One day you'll come out to them. And that day, maybe they'll tell you that you should've do it, that it would've been ok. If that happens, remember that it's not your fault, don't feel guilty about time wasted, it's ultimately them who made you feel unsafe about coming out.

Protect your siblings. But don't ever forget to care for yourself first. Don't be selfish, but too much selflessness can be self-destructive. Find the right balance.

You don't owe anyone anything, especially with who you are.