submitted 1 year ago by sleepybisexual@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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A few days ago I was one step closer to coming out but now I doubt its safe to come out. My parents just proved that they are extremely religious and would get pissy about how im bi ( actually omni but I use bi ) and how i despise the Catholic church.

The only thing stopping me from coming out is religion. Anyone in the same boat? What do i do?

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[-] sleepybisexual@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

I'm just keeping my siblings safe and trying to counteract religion. They are my only bet on coming out eventually. Its not too late to teach them to not be bigots but idk how. They are 5 and 3 and im not sure how I can explain lgbt to a child. I actually care about my 2 siblings

[-] Plume@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

Well, I don't know about that. However, people will often go to children who got into school if they have a girlfriend or boyfriend. I always make it a point to ask "both" if someone asks it first.

Like, someone will go to my nephew and be like: You got a girlfriend? in a joking way. Which, you know, I'm not sure how I feel about asking this kind of questions but whatever. If I do ask that question, I'll always ask it like: Do you have a girlfriend? Or a boyfriend? making sure that my tone stays the same, to not indicate that there is a difference between the two, that both are equally valid.

Basically, I don't explain it, I just make sure to make it sound normal. I don't have to explain why it's ok for a boy to like another boy, for example, nor do I say it is. I just talk as if it is normal, because it is.

Hopefully that's helpful. :)

[-] sleepybisexual@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

I'd do that but they go to an all girls school atm and nobody asks if my sis has a bf

[-] Evergreen5970@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah, that might want to wait until they’re actually around puberty, a common thing is people getting understandably angry that 5 year olds are being asked about their nonexistent significant others. But the general idea about intervening to present more than one gender as a valid romantic interest is solid.

I honestly think searching the internet would be helpful here.

how to explain lgbtq to children

I know a lot of us are on Lemmy to avoid Reddit, but their LGBTQ+ subreddits probably contain people in similar situations who got answers to their questions about how to survive an intolerant religious family and how to best approach this topic with young children. I’d say that browsing Reddit for this kind of thing really is not a big deal. Go browse Reddit for answers, I personally weigh people not being bigots over sticking to the Reddit protest. If this rankles, there’s also alternative front ends to Reddit that don’t give them traffic, so you can basically browse Reddit without breaking the protest, without giving Reddit anything. https://libreddit.projectsegfau.lt/r/LGBTQ/ https://libreddit.projectsegfau.lt/r/lgbt