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this post was submitted on 09 Jul 2023
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aww :( that’s really too bad, i’m sorry to hear it. even with hal? i can see halley being a bit feminine, but hal reads as neutral or masc to me more.
for what it’s worth, i think halley is cool as fuck, and the origins of why you chose it are super sick.
Wow, thank you! <3 Hal is a masculine name (and I pretty much go by it all the time) but if I say my name is Halley, people just tend to assume I'm a girl. I really thought it was a gender neutral name... I'm autistic so I can't tell as easily as other people lol. I guess my advice is: when you've picked your name, ask other people whether it reads as fem or masc! I know you're cis but it can still be really annoying for people to assume you're a gender you're not because of your name.
To be fair, whether a name is considered fem/masc/gn is so arbitary, the same name can be fem to one person and masc to another, even in the same country. So I doubt that non-autistic people have an easier time with it, they'll probably just assume their own opinion is the prevalent one lol.