Any chance the people failing to remember aren't part of the minority in question?

This has to be it. I don't strongly qualify for any of the letters in LGBTQ+, unless you really want to add woman or "not a 10/10 supermodel" and the only difference in anti-LGBT rhetoric I've seen in my life is that I'm not required to interact with assholes after highschool and college. Even at jobs reactionaries usually tone it down, at least tone down the doing-it-openly and the targeting-somebody parts. The worst I usually see is by randos on the internet or like if I'm at a bar or if I'm dating a guy who has that extra sus friend or 50% of anyone's older relatives. I see misogyny all the time though, and also I see people who-aren't-women claim misogyny doesn't happen anymore. It's obvious to me that I don't see anti-LGBT so much because I'm not a target.