From Real Life Comics by Mae Dean https://reallifecomics.com/comic.php?comic=june-29-2020
Wow this brought back some unpleasant memories...
Okay so I really don't like the indirect dysphoria argument because it often can feel like it's being used to force someone into coming to a conclusion they don't feel is right for them when they are forced to justify, in this case why they don't want to be a girl. This happened to me multiple times when being egged by people before learning I was NB and it felt really fucking gross. Don't try to force people who aren't willing, it feels terrible.
I remember being told similar things by my "friends" in school due to me being a femboy who wears girl's clothes, and also for being gay, they used a similar argument with me when I would respond to their questions about why I don't want to be a girl because I didn't know then a better way to respond and I wasn't aware of what they were doing to me. They also teased me for being gay telling me "boys aren't attracted to other boys". I'm very glad I found better friends, those people weren't really my friends, they treated me like dirt.
Okay just crawl in my head and live rent free I guess
Stop it, the gender therapy waitlist isn't getting any shorter!
Been a fan of Mae's since the early 2000s, and this comic came after I'd started my transition, but it still absolutely blew me away.
Wow I'd completely forgotten about Real Life Comics.
I had seen that tweet before this comic but the comic feels pretty accurate to how it went down for me too. The next few weeks of comics were a pretty awesome story as well. Especially the one way he wakes up. That was so me!
It sure is a good thing I learned very quickly to directly oppose egg arguments made against me rather than try and justify why I don't want to be a girl. Indirect Dysphoria arguments are awful, and you can't get out of them with any kind of formal politeness, it'll just be turned around against you and labeled as "indirect dysphoria".
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