Ok, what i get from her is there should be first the person. All other descriptors, with a focus here on one’s gender, should not be a factor in how one should be evaluated nor evaluate others. That positive masculinity will not work because it still presents hurdles and still tries to define a mans place in society.

However she really shot her own argument early in the video. Casting Rocky as the example of unattainable and toxic masculinity was the wrong interpretation of the first movie, and not laying her argument against positive masculinity early enough lost a lot of viewers before she could really make her point. Also the unnecessary dig at the men at the mens retreat was unnecessary and punches down. Don’t believe me? Read the comments. A lot jumped ship and do not tackle the message she tried to convey.

As for the argument, it seems that she argues that one should worry more about being the best person and not worry about fulfilling a gendered quota, though kinda harms that view in the video too.

Shady is an activist, he looks at things very pragmatically.

Shady seems like someone interesting to talk to but activist and pragmatism don't belong in the same sentence.