I feel your pain. The fediverse has been disappointing because of the extreme bias and propaganda.

What made your experience negative ?

• I'm on an large instance which doesn't federate with Grad, so I don't see the Right-winger playing to be leftist by supporting right wing dictators

• Tons of communities don't get that much political beside the respect basic human rights and sometimes comment the news

• Even with the European election ongoing, I don't see much political discussion on European communities

So may-be try more "casual/fun" communties than the political one.

If you use the "local feed" it may be worth checking another instance. I heard good stuff of Blahaj Lemmy which as no downvote and act mostly as a safe/relax space for queer but is open to non queer people

I can't tell if you're the problem or if it is Lemmy.

I don't think there is an alternative as of now.

However: I think Lemmy will grow. As of now it doesn't due to the limitations of the software developers... Which is my personal little pet peeve. But it's currently in the process of diversifying itself. New projects like Piefed and others are being developed to tackle the current issues and limitations that don't get addressed by the Lemmy developers. I think there is a good chance that Lemmy is going to change in the near to mid future.

(And I don't get all the drama and political arguments anyways. It doesn't contribute anything to my life discussing world news/politics and it's bound to be negative... I'd like some more nice personal projects, soldering electronics, Linux communities and maybe posts about woodworking or lewd stories. Arguing about politics is a valid thing to do, but also boring in my perspective and this place is full of it.)

Reddit: everybody sucking Trump or Biden’s dick

Lemmy: everybody sucking Putin or Xi Jinping’s dick

I agree and started putting effort into Mastodon. It took a week or two of filtering and browsing to find users and content but I've definitely found a more engaging base of content to interact with that is nice.

I was an engaged redditor who switched 100% to Lemmy and I do not feel quite satisfied with the comments and content.

I'll stick around, but I find myself on Mastodon and using Ground News more often.

Btw I have comments in my history of how frustrated I was about finding content on Mastodon, but suddenly it clicked after I spent a bunch of time on it. Not a raving endorsement but ultimately I do enjoy it.

Another side note, I was looking for some top users to follow and some have 10k followers, cool. Then I find some federated threads accounts with millions and realize how small we are in comparison. I know why, and I understand it, but it's truth that small user bases have less ideas.

I thought we have quite a diversity here with extreme right wing on hexbear, extreme left wing on lemmygrad, center with lemmy.world, (clasic) liberalism on dbzer0, and everything between like blahaj, beehaw, redhat, slrpnk, etc.

Imo it is fine as long as you stay away from Lemmy.ml, Lemmygrad and Hexbear.

I'm not sure of better alternatives, only different. Mastodon or even Threads might be your solution. I also took a look at the comment history to get a sense of what you mean and I think I get it since I also get a fair share of negative interactions.

I think it's actually because of Lemmy's size that you get some pretty fringe views on here. Heck, if anything, the diversity you seek might mostly be all the views in-between that get drown out by the loudest fringe views. I'm sure there plenty of us lurking, since it's so exhausting engaging with lemmings at times. I'm by no means a moderate, but simply trying to defend a news source as legitimate can feel like a disheartening chore.

Anyway, I don't really know where to go for that and if you find out, I'd love to know. I don't necessarily agree with you on your views, whatever they may be, but I certainly can agree that we need a little wider range of views (and perhaps a bit more civility when someone expresses a different perspective).