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"If you want to make a racist and misogynistic game, at least make it fun" - Gygax, probably

the issue ... isn't just that it's ... horrifically racist and misogynistic, it's also a terrible game

It's funny, but it seems like I read this phrase a lot, and not just about games (book series, movies, shows, etc). I can't think of any other good examples off the top of my head, but it seems that every time an artist takes a really cool or interesting concept and fills it with bigotry, they also fill it with poorly written mechanics, potholes, clunky dialogue...

Sure, there's media with language that doesn't age well, but it seems like 9/10, when something is made with blatant hate, there isn't even an incentive to try to push past or ignore it; the content is garbage with or without the drivel. The initial concept is just good enough to get people to want to give it a shot.

I played a horny rpg at a kink convention that went fairly well. I suppose the nuance to the situation was "I probably want to have sex with you, but I'm not sure, why don't we engage in some nerdy sexually charged situations and find out?"

Because I have friends that are fun to flirt with but aren't actually into me, and because I'm too fucked up with intimacy issues to fuck anyone?

I have thought about this in embarrassing depth.

The first reason I can think of is when sex isn't an option. Maybe you're in a long distance relationship or something. It gives a good structure to what is essentially phone sex.

The second reason is as a form of foreplay. We already have sexy roleplay in the sheets to help set the mood, and now we're just using character sheets instead of bed sheets. Then your "what would you like to do" can be followed by a demonstration.

This is why I think sexy RPGs should be designed for couples.

...why would you bother to play at all? Just have sex.

Someone's clearly never been in a queer polycule.

Sexually charged, though otherwise usual situations are also just a lot of fun.

I would argue that just flirting around with friends is like, a top 10 experience ever.

It's not always about horniness, per se. For example, I'm trans, and giving birth is something I'll always want but probably will never get to experience. So maybe I want to experience a "power fantasy" of sorts where my trans character performs dark rituals to give birth to eldritch abominations, all so she can experience motherhood.

I'm sure there are other experiences that people would want to rp but not necessarily to experience irl. It certainly overlaps with kink, but it's not like you're masturbating at the table. You're telling a story with adult themes, not (necessarily) writing erotica.

Theres a bunch of people in my life I definitely don't want to have sex with, but I love being horny with

I don't personally fill that niche by playing horny RPGs but I imagine they'd be a great time with these people

My issue with horny RPGs is that if you can find people to play with that are into whatever kink the book is catering to, why would you bother to play at all? Just have sex.

Because the point is role playing. You might as well ask what's the point of any kink, fetish or sexual situation that isn't two married adults having sex for the purpose of procreation. Building up trust and eroticism is the point for a lot of people, even in plain porn¹

¹all porn media has a story, even if people like to joke that its pointless, but that's a bigger topic for a very different conversation

kinda wish there was a 'suggestive' tag or something.

Yeah, the dildo in the middle of the table pushes this one over the top

Imo the Internet was a vastly better place when everyone practiced personal responsibility and assumed that everywhere online was inherently wild and potentially unsafe unless specifically deemed otherwise, not the other way around