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Originally posted to r/weddingattireapproval
Is this cape appropriate for a bridesmaid for an October wedding?
Thanks to u/soayherder for suggesting this BoRU
Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, golden child syndrome
Original Post: April 22, 2025
A pic of the cape
r/fashion told me to come here and get your guys' opinion.
Bridesmaid wants to wear this cape instead of a shawl for a wedding that takes place in October this year in case it will be cold.
Upon the bride's wishes, everyone's dresses will also be red so she thinks it matches. Please knock some sense into her
Additional Information from OOP to clarify up on her roles in the said wedding
OOP: It won't let me edit the post so I think a more detailed explanation is needed.
I am neither the bride nor the bridesmaid in question. I am just another member of the bridal party.
Now, the bridesmaids in question is the bride's twin sister and there was always bad blood between them growing up. The twin of the bride is the so called golden child and constantly up staged the bride which is why they are low contact. Once again she must be jealous or wishes to be in the spotlight if she plans on wearing this ridiculous cape which will not even keep her warm as she claims. Must be because the twin is not married or in a relationship even.
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: 1) that wont be keeping anyone warm in october, its see through
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it looks like an alternative brides bridal train...
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its very 'look at me, i want attention' and doing that on someone's wedding is yikes.
Unless she has specifically asked the bride, and shown a picture of that, and has got specific approval for that item of clothing, then no.
OOP: I doubt she will be getting any approval.
Commenter 2: I'm not sure if you're the bride or not, but if you are, please feel very free to tell her that the answer is simply "no" and that your mind won't be changed on this.
I cannot imagine the thought process that leads someone to ask something like this, but then again, I realize I am not the main character in every story...
OOP: I am not the bride, thankfully. She is, however the bride's twin sister. They are not on good terms and she has always up staged the bride for most of their lives growing up.
Commenter 3: Why is a person with a horrible relationship to anyone getting married even in the wedding party? That makes no sense. Ugh. And yes, if the goober wears this thing, make sure it gets stepped on A BUNCH. Yikes.
OOP: People in our culture value family relationships very much. It's indeed unfortunate but there were some fights about the twin not attending the wedding or be part of the bridal party. Hopefully everything will be sorted out.
Is the bride and the bridesmaid identical twins?
OOP: Identical yes, but with their current looks they don't look at first glance.
OOP on the bridesmaid wearing the cape due to the possible cold weather at the wedding
OOP: The shawl was the main idea. She's only doing this out of spite if you ask me.
Update: April 23, 2025 (next day)
If you have no idea what I am talking about, there is a link to my previous post.
The post has gotten a lot of attention over the night and I am glad people got a laugh out of it, because so did I and everyone else in the party. My insights say it has over a million views too!
For those of you who asked if it is a Dracula wedding, it is unfortunately not but me, the bride and almost every other guest lives somewhere in Transylvania lmao. Anyway, the bride has seen the cape and did not like it. After a lot of back and forth, the twin of the bride, aka the bridesmaid who wanted to wear the cape will no longer participate in the wedding, not even as a guest.
Thank you for your great insights!
Relevant Comments
Commenter 1: Okay wait, this bridesmaid was the bride’s twin sister and she’s now no longer attending at all?! Please tell me there is more to this story!
OOP: Oh, yes. I don't have all the details as this took place at their parents place but I did get a short text from their little brother on how there was name calling and mostly threats. It turns out the twin already bought the cape and when the bride saw it it was the last straw. She was uninvited for good.
It is an ugly case of twins growing up with one being the golden child. In this case it was the bride's sister. I suppose she's not happy about the bride being married first. And to a wonderful man at that.
Commenter 2: Whoa!! So the bridesmaid that wanted to wear this was the bride's twin??!!!!! Oh yeah she is used to sharing the spotlight and didn't like being left out. How sad.
OOP: That is exactly it.
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