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Womens weekend positivity... what do you like about your body? (lazysoci.al)
submitted 6 days ago by CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al
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Women are trained to value themselves by their appearance and simultaneously hate it. We're too fat, legs too short, wrong shape, stretch marks from childbirth etc etc. And it's so much worse if you're trans, non white and so on. What do you like about your body?

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[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 19 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I've been training loads so my arms are really toned! I've got a great shape and limited bingo wings.

I have big lovely disney princess eyes with long lashes! I can look doe eyed sometimes, which I really like. I've also got a little mole near my eye that's an actual beauty spot!

I've got really graceful, elegant fingers. People sometimes ask if I used to play piano because they're perfect for it!

Also, I'm here. Age is a gift not everyone is given, and although I'm officially middle aged I know I'm lucky to be here.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 10 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I started lifting in October '23 after a former student of mine opened a small gym and invited me to train with him. I entered it thinking "my sport involves lifting heavy objects and putting them back down again" and now think "wow, there's so much technique and knowledge needed to do this effectively and safely".

And I can squat and deadlift about 60% more than my body weight (as my trainer put it: I was gifted with "sturdy peasant legs", the bastard!) I can do rows of various forms with about 60% of my body weight (thought I hate my life for a few days after back day), but I can't crack 80% of my body weight with bench presses. 😥 I'm at about where I want to comfortably be so now I just maintain, not build.

So if you're lifting, good on you. It's one of those things you can do to look and feel better both that doesn't take a huge amount of time compared to doing cardio (which by definition needs huge chunks of time: I hate cardio day!).

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I love lifting! If it wasn't for the kids, I'd be a monster by now. Are you really squatting and deading 1.6x bodyweight, that's so cool! Well done! I'm back to almost bodyweight but I keep having setbacks... Just life, ya know. Either way, it's a great way to exercise and great for your bones too.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 4 points 5 days ago (2 children)

Yeah, my squats and deadlifts developed in no time flat. It surprised both me and my trainer. (Hence the "sturdy peasant legs" crack.) I could probably have taken it to double but that would have put an unpleasantly unbalanced look and feel to my lower body. My back developed well too, but I hit a wall hard at the chest and it stayed there. I can't break it. :(

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

Samesles on the balance. I can lift a lot but can't do a pull-up!

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Oh, and my SO got terrified with some of the pelvic lifts I was doing. I can now almost casually throw him off me without using my arms. 🙃

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That's really impressive mate well done! I'm the other way, weights bores me to tears but cardio I love.

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I watch films on my laptop when I lift since I'm at home. Otherwise it can get dull in between sets.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Yep that's not a bad idea. Love your username!

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 11 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I've grown to love being tall and physically big. I like to stand up straight and take up space. I used to be self conscious about it, especially in school, and I wished I was delicate and waifishly feminine but I'm owning it now. Being made on a larger scale helps me feel powerful and confident. I am hard to intimidate and I can stand up to bullies.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 5 points 6 days ago

I absolutely love this! Tall women are often stooped over because society tells them they should be. You've seen how it makes you powerful and confident, a freaking warrior and you're owning it

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I’m slowly learning to like my abdomen area. I put on ~15lbs during my last depressive episode. I’m down 5, and would like to keep going, but 2 hookups I’ve had lately complimented how petite I was. I’m so hard on myself, like all of the time, that hearing those compliments changed my perspective a bit. I think I’m content at this weight, and will make more efforts to stop counting calories and starving myself. I almost certainly have some sort of a eating disorder, so this is pretty big for me 🙂

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 8 points 6 days ago

That's great Jessica! Abdomen is a difficult one, we're not built to have flat stomachs and yet we're expected to. Most women don't like theirs so you're doing well. EDs are hard, they get very county and it's hard to healthily lose weight without it getting triggered.

[–] 7empest@beehaw.org 3 points 6 days ago

I like this comment. I have slowly begun to accept my abdomen as well. For years I avoided the front tucked style because I thought my abdomen / stomach area was too big. The weather has been better the last few weeks and I decided to tuck y tshirts in the front... And guess what, the world didn't fall apart. Next step, a crop top I bought last week.... I'm going to win this mental battle

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 17 points 6 days ago

I've stopped biting my nails, so I've been using all the polish. :)

[–] duckworthy36@lemm.ee 7 points 6 days ago

I’m 45 and feeling like I’m aging because I’ve had some health issues that limit my activities. I’ve always hated being in photos and on camera - super introverted.

Recently met someone I was on zoom with no image with. She was a little inappropriate- but basically said, I’m surprised you’re so beautiful you could have turned the camera on.

Made me feel a lot better- and to be honest, I have great skin and my eyes are pretty cool I have sectoral heterochromia so they are two different colors.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 13 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Partially because I stopped smearing industrial chemicals on my skin willy-nilly, I like the fact that I can pass as being in my late 40s.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I honestly thought you were only in your 20s! Your lemmying is always so vibrant and full of life. I shouldn't have made that assumption

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

🤣 I'm 59! 🤣

I just have the heart of a child. (Insert Stephen King's joke here.)

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Omg you're actually older than me! Hey fellow old gal!

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Hello, fellow hag!

So which broomstick do you favour!? 😄

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Classic wood of course! How many naps do you reckon you'll have today?

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Weirdly I've never developed the napping habit. If I try to nap I wake up feeling worse than when I started off. My SO knows that if I'm voluntarily napping that something is badly wrong with me.

Mine's lightning-struck jujube tree. It allows me to fly safely in thunderstorms.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 7 points 6 days ago

Oh yours is fancy, you're a hag with class

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 6 days ago (1 children)

My curves 😊 I've come a long way in accepting my body and coming to enjoy being in my own skin. Being somewhat overweight has been an insecurity for a long time, especially comparing myself to how much I used to weigh. Had a big moment recently where I realized that I love my body so much more now than I did then and that even if I could go back to being the same weight, which was underweight, I wouldn't want to. I'd rather be the size I am now. I still have some health goals in mind but I lost any feeling of like regret or wishing I could go back to having the body I had then.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 6 days ago

This is fantastic Autumn, it's really hard to have a successful relationship with our weight. You've had a lot of difficulties with it, and a lot of insecurity. It's all understandable but hard to overcome, and you've got to the point you genuinely like your body. It's great work well done

[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social 6 points 6 days ago

I like my hair a lot

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I have shapely legs and a nice face. I appreciate the lightness of my body hair. I've got a nice strong grip; my brother always gets me to open jars.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 6 days ago

Those are great things! I'm jealous of your grip, many times I've had to knock on at neighbours and get them to open jars for me 😢

[–] MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 6 days ago

I love this post. I can be very self-critical.

I have really long legs, and I like my wavy hair. I'm learning to love being tall the more I develop my wardrobe of clothes that fit.

[–] pandorabox@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Honestly i love my teeth. They are crooked and overbitten but its just the way i like them. All the years of braces and pain to make my teeth be straight when they are fine. I can eat and im always smiling!❤️

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I love this!

[–] pandorabox@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

❤️❤️❤️

[–] Alice@hilariouschaos.com 6 points 6 days ago

My big fat ass and huge boobs lol

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 5 points 6 days ago

I have, pardon my French, juicy ass and thighs and I love it about myself, where I used to hate it