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Like most people and young adults my age i also hate being broke. Im 19 and im not allowed a job due to parents, life, and not wanting to drive. The thing is im depressed and very unmotivated due to young adult hormones or something. I also feel like if i start making money i might get a spending problem to fill the void.Its not like i could get a job i have no real experience.

Im stumped but im also not sure what steps to take.

If you have any further questions feel free to leave a comment.

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[–] Fizz@lemmy.nz 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

As much as work sucks. Life with money is better. Look for an entry level job like IT service desk. You don't need any IT knowledge and office work is pretty chill.

Apply for 1 or two jobs a day. Keep a spreadsheet so when they call you can open it up and refer to the job ad. Basically just tell them that you're motivated to work and learn and repeat the things from the job ad back to them you'll have a good chance of getting it. If they ask for a car or degree say you have them.

Get your CV and cover letter checked because applying for jobs with a shit CV is wasting your time.

[–] Linktank@lemmy.today 26 points 2 days ago

"Not allowed... ...due to... ...not wanting to drive."

Reads as "I don't actually want to work, but want money." Welcome to the grind pal.

Let's get past the bullshit responses. "Go outside more, eat healthy, do yoga, make new friends blah blah fucking blah"

Go get some shitty fast food job so you can put something on a resume. Work it for 6 months so the next employer knows you don't just quit immediately and then look for something less slave-labory.

Your next step is to mass apply to a bunch of shitty fast food website applications and hope for a hit. Lots of people will say going in and following up won't do anything for you, and that's true in a lot of cases. But if you actually WANT the job then showing up and asking for the hiring manager and talking to them for 2 minutes can actually go a long way in some cases, even in this age.

Good luck.

[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 13 points 2 days ago

how are your parents or your life not "allowing" you to have a job?

[–] sexy_peach@feddit.org 7 points 2 days ago

Depression is life on hard mode. That's why most people don't want to have it.

[–] Crazyslinkz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Walking to job or public transport not an option? Do you have a bicycle, skateboard, or other transport?

Try applying for customer service jobs that are work from home. Understand that if you get a sales position it's about pushing customers to buy something they don't need.

[–] Widdershins@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I work 5 minutes drive from home. I've thought about biking to work but then I'd have nowhere to sleep during my lunch break.

I have a neighborhood friend from growing up who doesn't drive. He works 1 block away from where he lives. Another friend in my current neighborhood also doesn't drive. He picked up a second job and just used Uber to get to that one. His usual job is within walking distance from our neighborhood. Both these guys live at home with their parents.

Once the money starts coming in you will spend it on grown up stuff like getting to work. Once you start spending up to 40 hours a week working you'll find that spending money also requires spending time that you've already spent at work.

Whenever I have a little extra cash burning a hole in my pocket I browse Steam for games that might interest me. It's usually a shit show and feels like a waste of time. Picking up a new game is less exciting when work beats you down and you don't have the energy to learn how to enjoy it.

You are a young adult. Do everything you can to enjoy your free time before work sinks it's claws into you. It will happen sooner or later. Having an income is good and all but we are all spending time at the same rate. Rich or poor we all only have 24 hours in a day. One day you'll look back envoiusly at 19 year you who owned all of those 24 hours every day.

[–] Etterra@discuss.online 4 points 2 days ago

Excellent question. SSDI is nowhere near enough to survive on.