I have no idea how niche I am, but I wouldn't want to date anyone who is ok spending $200 on a date. Lets walk in the park and talk for hours. That's my kinda date.
this post was submitted on 13 May 2026
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You shouldn't spend any money on her until you've had sex, so she doesn't feel pressure to put out after an expensive dinner. Ideally, she should put out before the date even begins, just to make her feel more secure.
This feels like the PUA equivalent of giving a dog a pill in peanut butter, you're killing me XD
You think thats bad? Twitter is trying to start a movement of women remaining single till they die.
Tbh its kind of sad....
Twitter is trying to start a movement of women remaining single till they die.
if you mean twitter is so fucking gross it completely puts women off of dating, that might be accurate...
"wHy ArEn'T tHe YoUnGeR gEnErAtIoNs GeTtInG mArRiEd AnD hAvInG cHiLdReN??"
marriage and children is more expensive than dating, by far. full time childcare costs are 2-5K per kid, for about 4-5 years before they can get into kindergarten. if one partner makes less than 50-75K, it makes no sense for them to work.
nordic nations with lots of subsidies also have kow birthrates
if you give women choice, (education, careers etc) they mostly choose 0, 1 or 2 kids at most, all of those choices are below replacement. For every woman choosing 0, you need another choosing 5 just to stand still.
If you take away choice, keep women mostly at home, use religious indoctrination (quiver full) and insist upon a patriarchal society sans birth control you'll raise the birthrate. It's why many conservatives are starting to talk about banning birth control, where once they frowned on teen moms, they're now advocating for it.
Last year I went on many dates and the average expense was like $25. Yes, I did sometimes go out to restaurants, but they'd be either coffee shops with food or fast casual places. And yes I pay for her meal too. How are people spending $200 on a night out?
Wait it's the average vs the median probably. A couple extreme outliers are inflating the average.
Probably the old standard dinner and a movie. Assuming $20 for a main (x2) $10 drinks (x2 to 4) $15 show tickets (x2) maybe a $20 snack that's already over $100 and I low balled all of those prices. It could easily hit $200 especially if this is looking at larger population hubs.
Took my wife out for almost this exact date last weekend. Dinner was $45/ea for the main, $9/ea for drinks. Plus tip. Local live theater show was $40/ea. Skipped snacks because we were full from dinner. All-in, the night was just over $200.
Yeah it's typically 30-40 main and 15 per drink for me as well but with kids we rarely go out so that's a splurge. Also didn't include child care but since this was primarily about singles I didn't think it was as relevant. Parking also isn't free a lot of the time and that could be another 10-40+depending on the city and events going on.
Man life is too expensive.
I live in the south and can get the craziest portion sizes of like any type of food for $12. This seems like a NYC/LA problem
Where in the south? I live in the south and nothing at a decent restaurant including the kids meals cost less than $15.00. The last meal I ate out I paid for four adults and it was $85.00 bucks without any tip. So I'm gonna have to disagree with you there.
Memphis. Great food city
I've been there so yeah the foods okay but I've worked at the Allen Fossil Plant and stayed on Elvis Presley Blvd. So my perspective of a great city is different from yours.
Edit: On a related note on my memories of Memphis. I've only witnessed one murder. Its was on a side street just a few blocks from Graceland in the late 90's.
There are so many things you can do with a partner that don’t cost money and will make permanent memories.
Cucking. Gloryhole. Orgy. Swinging.
Running though the streets at 3:47 with a big knife and 5 dollar mask from pop up Halloween store
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Relatively new to dating via apps as an elder millennial freed from a life time of monogamy. (Only been at it 6 months)
Who are these people who want to go on a first date that involves being in a situation like a restaurant?
Seems like with apps people skip the whole courting thing and jump straight in to something that should only be for once you get to know each other a bit better.
For me, first meeting is a coffee or a drink at a well populated cafe or bar. Maybe a walk after somewhere busy in the city.
Maybe I'm just old and out of touch.
For me the getting to know you was chatting on the app, I chatted with my now fiance for a few weeks before we actually met up at a restaurant, I felt like I knew him well enough that a restaurant was fine
Glad it worked out for you.
But I can't help but wonder what if when you met in person it wasn't what you were expecting?
Would it have felt like a waste of texting effort?
all dating is a waste of effort. some people get lucky, some people just go on endless dates that go on where, or get into relationships that go no where.
if you find a LTR or get married or whatever, you're not dating anymore.
but without that "waste of effort" they wouldn't have gotten that long term relationship or marriage.
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