So the excerpt from the abstract quoted below struck me as kinda summarising my built up disappointment with the fediverse (which, to be clear is rather influenced by mastodon).

That is, I like these ~~notices~~motives, hoped to find tools for them in the fediverse when I came here, and feel like the fediverse and its fundamental design might be ill equipped to operate at this level. I often wonder how much I’m just grumpy about the place or on to something.

From the abstract:

Three of the many insights I will substantiate and examine in the talk are:

• that online communities have the potential to create deep changes in people when they are built in ways that foster deep relationships, criticality and conflict transformation, and emergent leadership;
• that changing socio-political structures must go together with joyful, liberating practices that can help us unlearn harmful cultural patterns that get in the way; and
• that perhaps we should be less interested in becoming experts, and rather find the courage and open hearts allowing us to be fearlessly and fiercely present to the world, with all its shit, its wonder, and its uncertainty.

https://madocollective.org/connecting/