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turbulence (fedia.io)
submitted 1 month ago by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

the waves crashing down are a terrible thing but the sounds on the shore where the little birds sing can be all that i need to keep going despite all the troubles surviving the ocean at night

i want to keep going; i cannot concede to the violence within causing me to recede

i know that i can't always gain what i seek but i know not how to escape from such a bleak and foreboding dismay of ideas in my mind and the fairy tale ending that's so hard to find

the journey itself is a battle it seems but there's hope in my heart to fulfill all my dreams

and i think that i must not sink further below

this struggle is real and i can still feel the undertow

but i will go on

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undertow (fedia.io)
submitted 1 month ago by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

i try to escape when it feels like i'm being pulled down and i don't know how to get out of here

being held under the surface fighting for a purpose igniting several verses

as it all goes gray i fear for today and the promise of tomorrow there's bound to be sorrow i wish i could borrow the power to eliminate this dread and despair and somehow to repair myself

it's almost too much to stay where i am to battle my demons to debate why the land that i know is the road to no- where

and if i can somehow overcome this now and keep from being pulled down again i'd still have to try to make a break for the shore and i don't know what to do anymore i'm trapped on the floor watching waves crash above but i'm guided by Love

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Pride? (fedia.io)
submitted 1 month ago by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

How do you feel about Pride? Plan on going to any events?

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

Hi, I'm Emma (she/her).

So, long story short:

  • I am lonely

  • I wanna befriend some local LGBTQ+ people here in southeast Louisiana

  • I can't send/receive direct messages to/from Lemmy users with this Mbin account, but I have a Lemmy account I can use if necessary

About me:

  • I'm a 90s kid

  • I'm a trans girl

  • I began transition, including HRT, January of 2023

  • I suffer from OCD

  • I'm a Linux nerd, kinda

  • I use PureOS on my Librem 5

  • I use QubesOS on my Librem 14

  • I use pfSense on my firewall/router

  • I'd like to think that I'm somewhat good at writing

I'd love to meet some LGBTQ+ people, but I don't know how. The only support group I've found is exclusively online via Zoom, and only Facebook users are allowed. As a privacy and security obsessed person, I'm totally excluded, and I just feel so trapped right now. I want to meet people offline, and I just don't know how.

And I'm really sad right now thinking about how much I love the friends I've made online in the past few months and how I feel so isolated from them.

It hurts to post this, but I feel that I must. I don't expect to find anyone, but I have to try.

Edit:

DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so here is my Lemmy account:

@Emma0@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Hi, I'm Emma (she/her).

So, long story short:

  • I am lonely

  • I wanna befriend some local LGBTQ+ people here in southeast Louisiana

  • I can't send/receive direct messages to/from Lemmy users with this Mbin account, but I have a Lemmy account I can use if necessary

About me:

  • I'm a 90s kid

  • I'm a trans girl

  • I began transition, including HRT, January of 2023

  • I suffer from OCD

  • I'm a Linux nerd, kinda

  • I use PureOS on my Librem 5

  • I use QubesOS on my Librem 14

  • I use pfSense on my firewall/router

  • I'd like to think that I'm somewhat good at writing

I'd love to meet some LGBTQ+ people, but I don't know how. The only support group I've found is exclusively online via Zoom, and only Facebook users are allowed. As a privacy and security obsessed person, I'm totally excluded, and I just feel so trapped right now. I want to meet people offline, and I just don't know how.

And I'm really sad right now thinking about how much I love the friends I've made online in the past few months and how I feel so isolated from them.

It hurts to post this, but I feel that I must. I don't expect to find anyone, but I have to try.

Edit:

DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so here is my Lemmy account:

@Emma0@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 12 points 2 months ago

A small amount of hairs will always grow back.

Yeah, that's what I was saying on matrix is what concerns me. Like, I'm thinking I just want the most permanent removal possible. I'm such a perfectionist, and it causes bad thoughts to consider flaws and stuff. I really need to find a surgeon and go over this stuff. Also a therapist would probably help a lot right now..

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Hi, I'm the total mess known as Emma, and I'm currently a little overwhelmed with things.

So, long story short:

  • I started HRT January 2023

  • I desperately need bottom surgery as soon as possible

  • I'm worried that I should have been doing electrolysis instead of laser

  • I'm worried about wait lists for surgery

  • I'm worried about the costs of surgery

  • I need to find a surgeon

  • I'm interested in evacuating to a safe state on the west coast

  • I feel overwhelmed with everything that I need to do

There's so much going on for me right now, and I'm seeking input from everyone here with something to say about any of my struggles.

Thanks ❤️

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Hi, I'm Emma! If you recognize my avi from Matrix chat rooms, yes I'm that Emma. 😊

Ada and others can verify that I'm legit.

So, long story short:

  • I am lonely

  • I wanna befriend some local trans people here in southeast Louisiana

About me:

  • I started HRT January 2023

  • I have ESP! (Estrogen Spironolactone Progesterone)

  • I'm a Linux nerd

  • I use QubesOS

I'm making this post here, because this is a much bigger audience than the Matrix chat rooms, but I am also nervous.

I know the odds are still against me, but I have to try.

Edit:

DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so here is my Lemmy account:

@Emma0@lemmy.blahaj.zone

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 10 points 3 months ago

I've been on HRT for over a year, and I feel so much better. I have ESP! (Estradiol Spironolactone Progesterone) 🥰️

I need bottom surgery. I think about it constantly. My recent meme on /traa expresses my emotional roller-coaster pretty well.

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 12 points 3 months ago

I went shopping with my mom, and someone asked "You ladies need help with anything?" 🥰️

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 10 points 3 months ago

🥳️🏳️‍⚧️️💖️

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 10 points 3 months ago

I'm pretty sure she's talking about Information Security (IPSEC), Operation Security (OPSEC), and generally being privacy-conscious. So like, being careful about how much personal information you share, so as to protect against doxxing and other bad stuff.

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 11 points 3 months ago

Yay!! Thank you so much for this wonderful place!

💖️🥰️💖️

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 21 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Okay, so here is a running list of the recent transphobic trolls from lemmy.today

  • @DiscordMod1990yyyyx@lemmy.today
  • @TiredOfWokeMods@lemmy.today
  • @Hshsjsjsjjsnsnshs555@lemmy.today
  • @VeganTomato@lemmy.today
  • @Vegan2mato@lemmy.today

There is definitely a problem of transphobic trolls coming from that instance.

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 10 points 3 months ago

I maybe got a little carried away in this comment.

What really pissed you off in a therapy session?

TL,DR: lack of privacy, security, communication, and respect

I'm not going to discuss the conservative "therapist" I had. I did eventually get an LGBTQ-friendly therapist.

I discovered that my therapist was typing up her notes on a Windows computer with a keylogger enabled by default, sending the data to Microsoft. The notes were also stored unencrypted on a server accessible by the entire IT department of the clinic.

She didn't understand the issue. This clearly voids patient-doctor confidentiality, and it destroyed my trust in the clinic.

I've experienced another issue while searching for a new therapist.

I found a therapist on the psychology today site that listed a full address. I showed up to make an appointment for a first session just to learn that she doesn't accept new clients without a phone call or email.

The only reason I had considered her was that she listed a full address, implying that phone and email weren't needed.

So I would recommend clearly communicating things like this, be privacy-conscious, and respect patient-doctor confidentiality. Without these fundamentals, there is no foundation of trust and respect.

What is the most important thing for me to try to understand?

I think the most important thing to understand for trans patients is that everyone's transition is unique, including the personal story.

So for instance, some trans girls/women say they were always a girl/woman, while others say they became a girl/woman.

It's important to listen and understand the individual and not get ahead of yourself.

I hope this is helpful, or at least interesting.

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 11 points 3 months ago

I can't seem to interact with any communities from that instance, so I can't report anything to their admins.

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 11 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

The eviltoast.org instance doesn't seem to have much local content, and a recent post asks:

Why has Lemmy.ml and feddit.UK defederated from eviltoast

My instance seems to have de-federated from it already as well.

The lemmy.today instance has more local content and engagement, but I can't seem to interact with its communities from my Mbin account. So I can't contact their admins and report issues.

Maybe the mod from Blahaj that removed their content can report the problem to their instance?

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/main@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Hey, so I'm on a different instance, and I hope it's not out of place for me to post here. I really like Mbin for its design and features, and I made this account specifically for interacting with LGBTQ+ posts.

Anyway, there are a few things I'd like to discuss, if that's okay.

First, I'd like to know if it's necessary for me to report posts if they've already been reported on Blahaj. Like, is it just a federation delay that causes the bad posts to still be visible for a while, or is my reporting necessary to get them removed?

I've noticed that the recent troll posts are coming from lemmy.today and eviltoast.org, and I'm wondering if these instances should maybe be considered for de-federation from Blahaj. It seems like one or two users are ban-evading by making new accounts on these two instances. Are there any legit users that would be affected by this de-federation?

Also, I wonder if I made a mistake by boosting a few threads recently. Like did I accidentally get the attention of these transphobes? Should I refrain from boosting?

Again, I hope it's okay for me to post this here.

[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 11 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Description: clockwise-pointing curved arrows encircling an emoji gif that cycles through happy and unhappy faces, matching the outer circle of text boxes containing the following:

I love buying girl stuff!! Cute shoes, thigh highs, tops, skirts, short-shorts, dresses, bras, panties, I love shopping so much!!

Shopping feels so lonely. It’d be so much more fun to go shop with friends.

I want some girl friends!! We could go see movies, go shopping, go to clubs, chat about all the things, It would be so awesome!!

Life feels so very lonely. I don’t have any friends, no romantic relationship, and no idea how to even go out and find people.

I want a cute boyfriend!! I want him to **** me, **** me, **** my ****, ***** me, ***** me, ******* *** ****** me!!

My body feels so foreign. I deeply crave intimacy but my body feels wrong.

I want bottom surgery!! I wanna be smooth, flat, comfortable, and sexy! I want to feel complete! I want to have a vagina!!

Surgery feels so distant. I need to find a surgeon, get psychiatrist referral, laser is taking forever, and it’s all expensive.

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@lemmy.ca
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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[-] -Emma-@fedia.io 14 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I don't. 😩 I've had relationships before my egg cracked, but I've been alone for a while now. And being alone is lonely.

I've never been with a guy, but I really want a guy to do things to me. But I need bottom surgery to fulfill some of these desires. I made a related meme recently, but I've been too nervous to share it. Mentally, I just kinda feel like a mess.

Edit: finally posted the meme

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-Emma-

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