Hey everybody, sorry, I couldn't think of a more fitting title. I feel the need to share my mental progress. After a long time of thinking "maybe I am - just eventually - transgender", I decided to go down the rabbit hole a few days ago. It was a very suppressed thought and it took me quite some strength to overcome it. I peeked in the mtf community and discovered the gender dysphoria Bible. And I ingested it. Every bit felt like it's describing me directly. And that's filling me with very mixed feelings. Obviously one is fear. I am 30 years old. Am married and have three kids. I'm worried about my own future, as well as the future of my closest. But there is also a feeling of euphoria in the background. Some weird feeling that's telling me it's right and everything is going to be good. That feeling is guiding me in unknown directions. When I was buying groceries today, I felt a surprising confidence in my thoughts. But that also got me to a situation I did not expect. When I first saw my own reflection, I didn't see myself. Previously, my only thoughts about my reflection were not that bad, I was mainly dissatisfied by my looks. This was different. And that brought me to the decision to for now change my online representation. For now, just in this small area of my life, I am a woman. And that feels pretty right.
Hey, heres a "guide" on how to detect and treat chasers, it might be helpful for yor situation!
What exactly is a chaser?
We use the term “chaser” to describe people who fetishize trans individuals based on their assumed sexual characteristics. They are not looking for genuine relationships or friendships, but simply other people to satisfy their sexual fantasies. Although the majority of chasers are male, people of any gender can be chasers.
There are a few clear signs, although not all criteria need to be met:
General behavioral tips
Trust your gut feeling. If something makes you uncomfortable, you should refrain from doing it. As a rule of thumb, “no” is a complete sentence and only ‘yes’ means “yes.” If someone tries to persuade you to engage in intimacy—even digitally—you should set boundaries with that person and block them completely. This also (and especially) applies to requests for other contact options (Discord, Instagram, TikTok, Telegram, etc.) and photos. In general—regardless of the platform—make use of the option to block people. Consider adjusting your DM settings so that only people with whom you have other friends, servers, or similar connections can write to you directly, or disable DMs altogether. If you are unsure about someone, it is better to say no at first or ask friends for their opinions.