Fun skill for this! Sometimes a short burst of exercise that raises your heart rate will trick your brain into thinking that the scary thing has occurred and it can now go into cooldown mode! In dialectal behavior therapy it's part of T.I.P.P. (it's the I for Intense Physical Exercise). Here's the rest of that skill in the digital garden I made for people who can't afford therapy (its still a work in progress though).
I just trained her to snuggle up in my lap instead. Only took a month or so and that's what she's done for years now.
Exactly this! You want a woman to run your house and rub your feet when you get home? You better be coming back from the fucking coalmine, asshole (not you you, obvs).
Honestly I was just reflecting on the lack of self-forgiveness being a lot of what's wrong with sobriety culture. I quit booze cold turkey 6 months ago (it was easy when I stopped talking to my fundie parents) but I've had people try to get me to personally identify with the label of "alcoholic." It's actually really important to some people that I do so, even internet strangers! They will literally argue for entire ten or more comment long threads that I need to call myself an alcoholic.
I honestly just don't find dwelling on it to be a useful sobriety strategy. I've gotten significantly more mileage out of just thinking about why I feel the need to drink sometimes and how I can arrange my life to lessen that. For instance in addition to cutting off my shitty family it also helped for the first couple months to temporarily not help my fiance with walking the dog because walking the dog to the corner store had become part of that ritual. It's not an issue now, but just not doing it for a little while was a big help. But to believe some of these people I should have needed to self-flagellate a lot more to have accomplished what I did.
My coworkers often tell me they never knew a cup could taste so smooth and yet be that caffeinated, then I get to watch their eyes glaze over when I try to explain the chemistry.
*...so that you don't die in the crossfire of the drug war they intentionally started in your neighborhood.
Almost in exact terms, yes. You should've seen the other guy in the thread that ran with the assumption that I was telling people to not go to therapy...?
Where did I ever say that? I literally just said they're resistant to changing their thought patterns because of this exact mindset and the number 1 place they're going to have that mindset challenged its in a therapy office. The reason I know this is how people often respond to professionals is because I've had to learn a bunch of workarounds to help people be more open to discussing it (like I said above). Even the resource I've been working on for people struggling to afford therapy leads with resources to try to help them find one. But when you get in that room with that therapist, they're going to try to get you to change your thought patterns, and if you react like you are now, you're going to waste your copay.
To be perfectly honest it seems like I hit a sore spot and you subconsciously chose to read it in the way that offended you most because like most of my patients your thought patterns are more focused on preserving themselves than they are on helping you, and you're not ready to admit that. Which is what it is, recovery doesn't happen until you're ready. Its the same psychological bug that keeps people believing in shit like qanon; admitting you're wrong can be 20x harder than just admitting that you've been causing irreparable harm to yourself (and in the case of qanon, other people) and that you need to change. The human brain would literally rather keep hurting itself than admit that it's wrong and that's a pretty well known fact at this point.
Honest answer? The biggest thing you as an individual can do to combat the mental health crisis is to help plan, create, and maintain social groups and spaces.
I'm over telling people to check on each others' mental health (as the primary intervention) because it leads to a hyperfixation on mental health symptomology. It also minimizes the importance of loose acquaintences to mental health; people who you can absolutely have plenty of casual social interaction with, but who you're not actually close enough to talk to all that intimately with.
TLDR; you should absolutely still check on your friends, but the best thing you can do is host more weed-free and alcohol-free parties and other casual in-person gatherings for your social and hobby groups (substances can be ok and fun, but a looot of people really need more gatherings away from them). Social isolation is on the rise and just telling everyone to constantly trauma dump has NOT been helping.
I have never heard this phrased with such accuracy and succinctness. 10/10, ty.
Likely to be an unpopular comment, but a lot of people use this mindset to avoid practicing making the subtle but consistent changes in their thought patterns that they would need to to break out of and away from depression-causing thought patterns.
"You should start incorporating small gratitude practices into your daily life to eventually train your brain to focus on less negative aspects of the world"
=/=
"Can't you just cheer up."
I guess the better way to phrase it to normies is that this is definitely not a change that happens overnight. It can take years even.
I'm actually not kidding I needed some help constructing some "highbrow humor" (I was making a childish poop joke in the nursing station) and was actually pretty impressed with the results. When I double checked there weren't a lot of search results for horse apples referring to poop (although there were some). Apparently that term usually refers to a specific fruit that isn't even an apple??? But that was the only one that didn't follow.
I've actually found AI pretty good at doing background work for my creative endeavors, but it certainly lacks that special mix of optimism and deep bitterness that most human creatives can convey with ease.
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I'm trying to clear out my crafting supplies before moving in a few months.
Anyone know any cool patterns? I don't even know if they could all be in one jewelry piece; they're very heavy.
Honestly the way I look at it is more that I just had to let her know how I prefer to cuddle with her and she was cool with it. It just took a while to do that because aside from not speaking English she doesn't even really think the same way at all so.