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[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

Honestly feel this... Will say for how much being a teenaged girl sucked I did learn the power of gaslighting and peer pressure which helped a lot. My dad and mom were always brawling with my sister and after it got used on me by my peers I realized since my dad was a momma's boy I could always threaten to tell my grandma, my mom was a religious nut so I could always bring up the devil and as long as I rearranged their arguments as "you're the crazy person" they couldn't figure out how to say shit back and would go away. I mean....still got bullied in winterguard, but weirdly helped my home life.

(If you want to know my sister unfortunately died at 30 of natural causes, I'm practically NC with my dad and my mom found a religious cult who helped her with anger management so we're mostly cool now + she's no longer in the cult cause one of them claimed to curse her with a demon so worked out somehow...)

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago

Yep and CR10 when you're level 7 and decided to fuck around is also a proverbial dildo

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Just from DMing perspective I feel this when my players decide to fight a NPC they weren't supposed to fight at a level I don't have a block for lol. "Well your options are cr3 and cr10 and you're level 7 so....10 it is and imma just shave some stuff off while hoping for the best" lol. Shout-out to every time my party says they're looking for shady people to circumvent the legal way to do something then balk when the pricetag isn't a handshake and an IOU their reputation proceeds them will never be collected.

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

Last week of 1997 I think (got a computer programmable barbie for xmas and somehow my older sister took this as "time to put her on the internet" lol). First thing she did was sign me up for AOL chat then put me in a "kid friendly" chat room (think there was a suggested list or smtg). Ended up being a roleplaying animals chat and.......well it wasn't just kids in there lol. Half of us were just typing "turns into a panda and rolls around" and others were typing "bear sits at bar and winks at panda". We quickly exited that and she searched me a cat facts site and left me to it.

With the new found power of search I started looking up where we were blocked in whatever the current Tomb Raider was which led me to fanfic porn which led me to what's 69 which actually led me to a couple different groups of older people who were very chill and "you shouldn't be here", but also gave me a lot of advice on sex ed (which was appreciated, my mom's period talk was vague and conducted like I was in a war now lmao), keeping private on the internet and what's an inappropriate conversation someone's trying to have with me, saying no and I don't have to talk to anyone who's making me uncomfortable. Also taught me how to download music and safe practices. So thanks "perverts" of the 90s, I appreciated learning what reverse cowgirl was, no means no and how to download music for free so I could stop tape recording my favorites off the radio lol.

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

5 lol have a test today and feel both prepared and unprepared at the same time 🙃 written portion is random questions which may or may not be written confusingly and skills portion is also random so I could get a 5 step or a 30 step skill

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

I'm not a mineral person going to be honest (I work in healthcare lol), so not sure I can really answer your questions. Also sorry being a bit cagey didn't want to dox myself before a google, like felt 99% sure this was a common mineral, but again not a mineral person.

Basically I lived in some foothills along a ravine made of granite. Home 1 I think we had a neighborhood well and home 2 was a personal well. I can't list the equipment being used to soften the water (if at all), I just know neither were on town water and home 2 I helped my dad install a softener since there wasn't one (which tbh didn't help too much besides making the water coming out of the faucet less cloudy and mildly less thirst inducing).

I don't think my hometown has a lot of limestone (idk may be wrong, like said I'm not a mineral person, all I know it's a granite ravine) so can't comment too much beyond that. This was just my experience with water growing up and what put me off it for a long time.

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

Bit confused here. There's levels to water hardness and what I listed you'd know pretty much instantly. It doesn't sneak up on you or anything. If it makes you feel better I grew up in a town on a ravine lol it was all rock. You may not be dealing with the same situation.

ETA also limestone wasn't the mineral that was the issue there, was a different one

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 8 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

I drink it now...on town water lol. Growing up outside of town proper in my area it did not taste good and left you more thirsty than when you started drinking it. The water was hard enough taking a shower felt like washing down with iron wool and if you stayed in more than five minutes you came out peeling. I was actually amazed the first time I lived in a town center on town water and the water didn't make my skin feel raw lol. I was floored when I lived in a beach town and not only was the water mild, something in the area made the water taste slightly sweet and enjoyable to drink instead of "somewhat metallic from old pipes, but inoffensive cause it's thirst quenching instead of thirst exacerbating".

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

My cat feels he's got to be invited in and demands I open the window so everyone and sundry can see me crap while he enjoys a nice breeze and wildlife voyeurism. Then while I'm mid-crap he decides we're done here and if I don't let him out prompto the whole house is gonna burn down.

Meanwhile if I don't let him in he's scratching up the door like he's trying to call 911 for a murder. Honestly don't know which is better but I guess my shits have gotten faster...

Ftr this wasn't better when we lived alone and I'd leave the door open. He'd just stand at the entrance yowling like he was reporting a fire. I have been informed by family his shits smell worse than mine so idk what he was complaining about. Especially cause when he craps he immediately tries to vacate the premises like he just left a bomb and a quick sashay out will save him from the shrapnel.

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago

Honestly just miss everyone working together. I only did about 1.5 seasons each of Picard and Discovery, but I just couldn't take all the "the enemy is each other". If I wanted that I'd watch the expanse? Ftr I will watch them in entirety and fully judge at that point, rn I haven't so can't say they offer nothing. SNW seems to get it though which I appreciate and hope continues. There are so few optimistic sci-fi shows I really want trek to stick to that niche.

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 25 points 2 months ago

Sometimes it's just a passion project by crazy people. My town has a shack on a busy non-walkable intersection without even parking spaces that sells only angel figurines. Let me be clear, this isn't general angel knickknacks, this isn't specific saints, it's angel figurines ONLY. You will find no bless this house signs. No Christmas tree toppers or ornaments. Not a single holiday decoration, religious or otherwise. You won't even find Jesus on the cross.

Angel. Figurines. Only. I always assumed it was a front for something until my mom helped with some taxes for them. No, it's just one crazy couple who are obsessed with the sanctity of the angel figurine. They feel very strongly about it and asking if they do garden angels now that spring's coming up and you'd love to patronage them is apparently offensive enough for them to take their taxes elsewhere lol.

[–] PassingDuchy@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Being that person providing a better method halfway through a process. A cave person standing on top of another to cave art the ceiling? Halfway through I go "...You know you coulda just grabbed the log from outside, leaned it against the wall and climbed it". Someone halfway through whittling a bowl? "Oh, yeah, I saw some coconuts on the beach they'd be perfect".

I have the great hobby of Looking At Random Things, but the bad habit of assuming everyone else saw those things too so they must be doing what they're doing for a reason lol. That all said I'm sure I'd be dead from dysentery within a week or smtg, they wouldn't have to suffer me long.

 

I have five credits on audible and looking to discontinue the service since I don't use it too much (believe I lose the credits if I haven't spent them when I discontinue). Looking for some recs to spend my five on before I discontinue. I'm open to anything except straight up school textbooks/self-help/religion and political guides/so much porn uptime headphones are absolutely required in a house with other people lol.

Rn my library is The Martian and Project Hail Mary, some He Who Fights With Monsters, American Gods, some The Hangman's Daughter and The Faithful Executioner. My non-audible libraries cover a wide range like a history of Charlie Chaplain fighting spiritualists, Greek BC city state warfare, Star Trek novels, The Princess Diaries and Percy Jackson series, Andrew Lang's fairy books, Water Margin, Altered Carbon, etc so really wide open to suggestions from across the board.

 

Weekly Hobby Round Up

This is a weekly catch-all post for casual hobby talk for the community. This post is for breaking drama (the 14 day rule will not apply to this post), news, chat, drama that may not fit the rules or is too short for a post write-up, etc. Bring your own popcorn!

RULES

  • Be civil
  • Follow lemmy.world's posting rules
  • Don't link directly to pirate or malware sites, use screenshots instead
  • No vagueposting (changing names and not naming bands/fandoms/etc is fine, but if your post is so vague no one can understand the drama it will be deleted)
  • Explain any acronyms and hobby terms (not everyone here is in your hobby!)
  • Ctrl+F the post to check your topic wasn't already posted before posting
  • For any issues use the report feature

Happy hobby drama-ing!

 

Fyre Festival, the history of World of Warcraft expansion controversies, Facebook groups fighting over the right way to make clam chowder. This is the community for all the drama big and small!

Please join our weekly discussions on current hobby news and maybe submit a few write-ups of your own about your favorite hobby controversies.

!hobbydrama@lemmy.world

https://lemmy.world/c/hobbydrama@lemmy.world

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by PassingDuchy@lemmy.world to c/hobbydrama@lemmy.world
 

Hello! Your friendly mod PassingDuchy again with a few community updates!

Reddit and Discord Hobby Drama communities

I did reach out to both communities. The response from both is that they're not interested in affiliating. As such we won't be linking to either community in the sidebar to respect their wishes. Going forward please don't send either community messages about partnering with this community (though I appreciate everyone who did! It was a big help).

Reposting

Based on the previous discussion post we will be encouraging an opt-out request be sent to authors, but not requiring. The only requirement currently is that the full text is reposted and a link to the original post is included at the top or bottom of the repost.

14 Day Rule

The 14 day rule for all drama being concluded (outside of Round Up) will remain instituted.

Post Titles

As Lemmy doesn't currently have flairs/tags, we will be requiring a little extra work on post titles to help community searchability. Your title must include:

  • [Repost] for reposts from another community (reddit or otherwise). Reposts must include the full text and a link to the original post at the top or bottom of the repost. At this time non-text posts (podcasts, YouTube videos, etc) are not allowed. If you want to link those you may link them in the weekly Hobby Round Up.
  • A [History] tag if your post is a professional history related to a hobby. History is for only professionals having drama with no hobbyists involved (industry drama). This is a little extra work, but a compromise for people who are solely here to read about hobbyists and not industry drama. Ex. A post about the history of F1 would be [History], but a post about fan efforts to have a specific racer removed would be hobbyist drama.
  • [Hobby] please keep this to the general hobby eg video games, knitting, board games, TV shows, music, apparel, etc.
  • OPTIONAL [Specific Hobby] this is mostly useful for designating a specific fandom, band, brand, platform, etc (eg if your write-up general hobby is music, you might put Taylor Swift here to note the drama is about her specific fandom).
  • We will not be requiring markers for post length. If your post exceeds the character count and needs to be continued in the comments, please link to the continued comment chain in your main post (currently mods can't pin other users' comments so we can't assist here).
  • A full title should look something like: [Video Games][Old School Runescape] The hat scandal OR [Repost][History][Music] Fyre Festival controversies.

Hobby Round Up/Scuffles

A general megapost for all breaking hobby drama (14 day rule will not apply), news, chat, posts that don't fit the rules, links to articles/podcasts/videos, etc will go up on Mondays (I'm currently looking into figuring out an automod bot to do this to ensure regularity). I've changed the name to Round Up in the hope that users who use both the Lemmy and Reddit communities will see the different title in their tabs and have less confusion when posting between both.

Hobby Town Hall/Community Discussion

Hobby Community Discussion will be like the subreddit's Town Hall and go up on the first of the month. As we are a smaller community this will go up on the monthly first to be used for a four month period and be pinned for the duration. Community suggestions, improvements and concerns should be posted to Community Discussion. If possible please use reports for any immediate concerns as the mod team can coordinate best for immediate response via the modlog. Our first Community Discussion will go up on September 1st 2023 and last until the next one on January 1st 2024.

 

Weekly Hobby Round Up

This is a weekly catch-all post for casual hobby talk for the community. This post is for breaking drama (the 14 day rule will not apply to this post), news, chat, drama that may not fit the rules or is too short for a post write-up, etc. Bring your own popcorn!

RULES

  • Be civil
  • Follow lemmy.world's posting rules
  • Don't link directly to pirate or malware sites, use screenshots instead
  • No vagueposting (changing names and not naming bands/fandoms/etc is fine, but if your post is so vague no one can understand the drama it will be deleted)
  • Explain any acronyms and hobby terms (not everyone here is in your hobby!)
  • Ctrl+F the post to check your topic wasn't already posted before posting
  • For any issues use the report feature

Happy hobby drama-ing!

 

Hello!

I take care of a few hospice individuals and am looking for breakfast ideas! Dietary requirements are as follows:

  • low carb
  • low sugar
  • low dairy

Since most of them have no teeth they need ground/pureed soft food as well (though I can always blender hard foods so I'm not listing it as a dietary requirement, but things like curries or soups are a big time saver for me since I can skip the blender step).

Currently my recipe list is as follows:

  • Shakshuka
  • Frittata
  • Miso Soup
  • Gazpacho
  • Vegetable/Fruit salads (I don't have a specific recipe for this so if anyone has one I'd love one!)

I'm not really a breakfast person so I'm looking for some recipe ideas since right now they mostly just get cereal or yogurt every morning which doesn't really fit the doctors' orders and has to be pretty boring for them.

 

Weekly Hobby Round Up

This is a weekly catch-all post for casual hobby talk for the community. This post is for breaking drama (the 14 day rule will not apply to this post), news, chat, drama that may not fit the rules or is too short for a post write-up, etc. Bring your own popcorn!

RULES

  • Be civil
  • Follow lemmy.world's posting rules
  • Don't link directly to pirate or malware sites, use screenshots instead
  • No vagueposting (changing names and not naming bands/fandoms/etc is fine, but if your post is so vague no one can understand the drama it will be deleted)
  • Explain any acronyms and hobby terms (not everyone here is in your hobby!)
  • Ctrl+F the post to check your topic wasn't already posted before posting
  • For any issues use the report feature

Happy hobby drama-ing!

 

Weekly Hobby Round Up

This is a weekly catch-all post for casual hobby talk for the community. This post is for breaking drama (the 14 day rule will not apply to this post), news, chat, drama that may not fit the rules or is too short for a post write-up, etc. Bring your own popcorn!

RULES

  • Be civil
  • Follow lemmy.world's posting rules
  • Don't link directly to pirate or malware sites, use screenshots instead
  • No vagueposting (changing names and not naming bands/fandoms/etc is fine, but if your post is so vague no one can understand the drama it will be deleted)
  • Explain any acronyms and hobby terms (not everyone here is in your hobby!)
  • Ctrl+F the post to check your topic wasn't already posted before posting
  • For any issues use the report feature

Happy hobby drama-ing!

 

Hey there! This is obviously a community in the vein of the reddit Hobby Drama subreddit, but I wanted to check in to see where we want to draw a few rules as a community. So to that end:

REPOSTING FROM REDDIT

I did see a few people were interested in having a bot auto repost from the reddit sub and most of our posts are reposts. My question here is should we have an anything from another site (reddit or otherwise) is fair game to repost with proper credit (let's try to keep those links back to original write-ups, I feel this is only fair to the authors) rule or should permission be obtained from the author first for reposts (basically like r/bestofredditorupdates on reddit)?

DRAMA RESOLUTION WAITING PERIOD

The reddit sub has a 14 day waiting period for drama to conclude before a post can go up. As we're obviously a smaller community I don't see the need to be as stringent, but waiving the waiting period could lead to a lot of biased hot take posts. Would the community like to see the waiting period waived, lowered, remain?

ETA: this post is open for discussion until 7/24 so please do add your opinion even if you feel "late" to the discussion! It's my goal to have the community rules updated by Friday 7/28 to fit our community a little better and knowing how our community feels as migration from reddit continues to take place will be a big assist.

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