almost as good as the motherfucking website. :D
I think it was 2014 or 2015 where someone suggested to me that I might be aro. either I misheard it or they mispronounced it, but I thought "what? aromatic? what's that supposed to mean?" and kinda dismissed it.
a bit later, maybe also 2016, I stumbled upon the term asexuality. and I found myself in there as well. to me, it was less "omg, I'm not broken!" but more "ah, that's the word for it". I was already kind of aware of my non-existant level of attraction and desire to look for a relationship. I'm sex repulsed, so that made asexuality rather clear.
in terms of being aromantic: I never kissed, hugged or cuddled with the teenage girlfriend I had (into which relationship my mother kinda coerced me into. not out of bad faith, though. I had almost no friends, and she just wanted me to encourage to feel romantic love toward someone and experience how awesome it's supposed to feel)
so, some years later, I also stumbled upon the aro label. even though I knew it was applicable, I didn't really vibe with it for quite some time. maybe because I my sex repulsion made my asexuality a lot clearer and significant than my (I guess) romance indifference.
Today, I've embraced both labels. I'm glad to have found them, because it opened up a world for me to find other like-minded people online (I'm not aware of anyone offline being aro or ace) to share discussions and memes with.
the a-spec community is/was one of the last things I regularly returned to reddit for, if this community finally picks up some steam, I might be able to stay here for good. :)
Wow, secretly overriding a decision for a permanent modification of someone else's body... what a scumbag.
It's probably the same kind of guy who's going to be really disappointed and angry because his child(ren) have lost their trust in him.
there is no reason for a (non-foreach) for loop to be any more or less finite than a while loop.
for (a; b; c)
{
d;
}
is just syntactic sugar for
{
a;
while (b)
{
d;
c;
}
}
in most or all languages with c-like syntax.
You people are using the local/all feed?
Am I the only one who exclusively uses the subscription function?
The tendency of society to bully people into conformity is honestly one of its worst traits.
why can humans be so incredibly shitty? 😞
one lesson life gave me was:
no matter how fundamentally and universally hated you think something is, there's always some individuals, communities and/or cultures who enjoy said thing.
the same opposition goes for things you assume everyone loves.
it's amazing how incredibly complex and diverse humans are.
If you're respectful to others, you're good.
Generally, I'm really careful about forming an opinion about people without knowing more about them. Each person deserves to be judged by their individual character and actions, not by the group they belong to.
who doesn’t want to be 100% a man or 100% a woman.
I'd go further and avoid any kind of "want to be" wording in explanations to people who can be really doubtful. Gender is who you are, not who you want to be. If you tell them "I want to be ", they might form some kind of "attack helicopter" opinion/joke. but if you tell them "I'm on the inside" or "despite my body, I'm actually ", that leaves a lot less room for wrong interpretations.
"Someone who's gender identity neither aligns completely with man or woman" would be my rewording, in this case.
no need to feel like an impostor. you could be homoromantic asexual. or if you're also on the aro spectrum, oriented aroace (where tertiary attractions are relevant enough to be considered part of their orientation) could apply.
even if you're not on the end of the ace spectrum, like gray or demisexual, you still belong in this community. and if you ever turn out to be not aspec anymore in the future, i'm sure you'd still be welcome here.
you are what you are, and that's valid. you don't need to prove your place here.
and feeling lonely/sad because you don't have anyone is no reason to be excluded, either. some aces (and aros) have no problem being alone. some crave a relationship of some kind. some are actively avoiding it, because "ew, relationships".
the ace spectrum is just as diverse as humanity itself, we just have the little difference of not (or conditionally, or rarely) experiencing sexual attraction. that says NOTHING about our opinions or how we interface with the (lack of) feelings
I tried to do my part and heavily restricted my visits to the site. I checked the state of my feed and user profiles a select few times but always left almost immediately.
I even redirected my reddit browser bookmark to a local website which acted as a warning wall, just to stop me from my subconsciously opening and browsing the site.
Just wait until you hear about zetta (10^21) and yotta (10^24) and their inverses zepto (10^-21) and yocto (10^-24). :D
Huh, neat! When fact-checking my statement, I just learned that there are even two more prefixes on each side of the scale: ronna (10^27), quenna (10^30), ronto (10^-27) and quecto (10^-30). They got added last year.