RBWells

No, political wife is not what I signed up for. Unless I was too afraid to leave, in which case I would try to secretly work against him. Which is also terrifying but at least useful.

I don't get this. Not even high school girls find high school boys attractive. How could a grown woman? And what's with the language, the word is raped or sexually abused/assaulted, 16 year old here is assumed unable to consent to sex with any adult.

Love isn't something you "deserve". Nobody does. It's given. You can give your love to a person. You are not stealing anything, you are creating more love.

Weird is no barrier, I can say that from a place of long experience, I've been weirder than my guys, someone has to be the weird one in any relationship.

Disability or illness also not a barrier, it will be a slight limit but a sizeable minority of guys really truly don't care, care much more about who you are, and good news is that group is mostly made of the guys who don't care if you are weird.

You don't NEED a relationship to be whole. Don't take any of the above to mean you must get out there and date. Do what you want. But be disabused of the idea that love is deserved and the idea that you do not fall into that "deserving" bucket.

Stress can cause hair fall, men can have pattern baldness, hormonal shifts can cause hair fall. If you don't know what's causing it you can't really address it.

If you think it's natural (are either of your grandfathers bald?) then you probably aren't going to be able to "fix" it as you aren't broken.

It's always a good idea to take care of your general health, do massage your scalp, not too much oil, and the dandruff shampoo is a good move, a healthy scalp is important.

Good luck to you.

I am actually living less than a mile from where I was born, like some middle ages peasant who never traveled, but have traveled. I'd like to have been born here, but in the timeline where Al Gore waited for the ballots to be counted and won.

I like to have a drink but hard NO to doing it before anything important. I strongly prefer to feel clear headed for those moments.

I've not been to many, but have had people repeatedly tell me our wedding was the best they'd ever been to, so I guess ours was the best by some measure. I have an enormous family, husband and I got together as adults so both had kids too, some grown, we ended up with 50 people only inviting immediate family (brothers, sisters, their partners and kids, our parents, our kids) the weather cooperated, we had open bar and only one person got too drunk, DJ not great but not bad, so much dancing, it was nothing super fancy nor bare bones, I would say nice enough so everyone could feel comfortable and not more.

If anyone is wondering, the things I think made it good - open bar, kids running around, good music, enough structure but not too much (a cocktail hour then ceremony then reception with music & a first dance, then food, then more partying, food left out for people to get more if they want, no assigned seating, tables pushed to edges so big dance floor and again I think open bar is a non negotiable, make sure there are plenty of non alcoholic options at the bar too)

It does feel like going out in underwear, to a place where everyone is in underwear, and the people wearing full clothing look out of place. I don't even have a perfect body but grew up near the beach, saw every possible body type in swimwear. So I am comfortable enough looking near naked in public, since everyone is. It's nice.

My kids call me Mom, step kids call me by my first name.

Oh and sometimes mama, in Spanish.

I guess I'd die. It's never either of those where I live. And crops would fail either way.

In terms of personal comfort:

If the only triple digit temp was only ever exactly 100, then I guess triple digits.

If it can be Celsius, 9 is so cold but not kill you cold, I would be sad but not dead.

You know what's funny? I have experienced the inverse of this. I run pretty cool so always take warm or hot showers, but one time there was a cold snap and my water heater broke. We had well water so it was very cold, and down here we do not really have heaters designed to handle actual cold so the house was freezing too. So I had what was probably the most uncomfortable shower of my entire life, shivering and teeth chattering so fucking cold, thought I would die, but when I got out? The air felt almost warm, it was so pleasant not just because it was over, but because it somehow blunted the feeling of cold. I don't understand how chilling my core somehow warmed me (it usually works the other way) but it sure did.

At night here I do shower hot, I think the theory is that then when you lay down, your body temperature is dropping and that makes it easier to fall asleep.

I am going to parrot what others are asking - what part of this is the biggest problem? If it's the expense, show her the bill. Tell her it bothers you that you don't treat the restaurant experience the same. Ask about why she doesn't like the canned options.

But you know - I don't think she is capital W Wrong in her approach, especially if you only go out to eat rarely. If she wants a variety, could you just order a bunch of appetizers for the table and share? We usually order for the table in expensive places, not for ourselves, we go one item at a time and share it, and that's one of the best things about the fancier restaurants. Or go to an Ethiopian place, they serve everything on one big injera for both of you.

Communication is the issue here I think - does she see it as "you are taking her out and want her to go indulge herself and enjoy" because going out to eat is entertainment and you see it as "I want to go out to eat because it's convenient and you are taking away the one benefit of going out to eat". And you are going to have to manage those competing desires in some way. I don't think it needs to be crazy expensive if that's what's bothering you.

How do you cook and eat at home? I really like to cook and can make food as good as we get when we go out, but if I want convenience my husband gets us takeout from somewhere. A restaurant is more for the experience not just the food.