RBWells

EAP is safe enough if you need to talk to someone. And they can probably help you to organize a plan for help, if you are too overwhelmed to start. I'd take advantage of that first.

Personally, I agree with the suggestion for MHT, I thought I didn't have menopause symptoms because I didn't have hot flashes, but there are a whole list of other symptoms that can occur and brain fog & anxiety are among them.

The world is anxiety inducing, you aren't wrong to feel it, but the feelings won't change anything, right? I agree with your idea to start with the EAP, it's free.

ETA - are you getting exercise? Don't overlook that, it can help so much with so much.

My younger set, and even the older ones, are so lasseiz-faire about kids transitioning. Like, it still seems kind of a big & scary deal to me, and I have a trans son. I don't mean I would ever try to squash anyone into a box, at all, it's not my life, each person gets their own! I did grow up with drag queens & gay people, that was such a beautiful, safe and inclusive scene for those of us who didn't fit in, in whatever way. We would just go and dance and have a good time. But there were not many transsexual people, some of the drag queens were people who wanted to be women, were always women, but more were usually men who liked to perform as women.

That got long, sorry - I just always think it's odd that so many kids are trans - enough that all of my kids had/have multiple trans friends. Like once it was sort of ok and not actively fought against, I would still think it would be vanishingly rare (and I don't think I think that out of any sort of prejudice), and it's not.

Four days with a migraine is the longest I have gone. Even if I put a spoonful of water in my mouth I'd puke. That was back when they would give you opiates to break the migraine, they don't work as painkillers for it but make you high enough to finally sleep - pain felt so far away - and I would wake up with no headache. It's happened about 7 times total in my life, now they won't do that but they do IV fluids to prevent damage and some antihistamine to make you sleep but it doesn't break the migraine. Hopefully it never happens again.

On purpose I have fasted 3 days but would NEVER purposely fast without water. Water with electrolytes if going more than a day or so.

My eyes hurt after looking at that. Was thinking I liked the kitchen ok, much more restrained & actually good looking until I got to the picture showing the enormous statue standing on the kitchen island.

I wanna say this is what happens when your interior designer hates you, but I do like these stairs ok. Marble floors are so cold and unfriendly. Maybe the occupant was color blind.

His mom was actually pretty when young and it's only the villainess hairdo and heavy jewelry, style keeping her from looking like a regular old lady.

His dad wtf is going on with his face? Was never a looker but did he have to have a chunk of it removed or something? He looks like he's been Frankenstein-ed.

My husband always thought he did, but is slowly coming around. He will order "medium well" at restaurants but last time he did that, he got it and said it was overcooked, lol. Probably because at home I say "cooked on the outside not on the inside please, we spent a lot of money on this."

Stew meat cooks forever and is better for it, but not steak, no.

I am into most of those "acceptable hobbies" but would throw reading and gaming into the same bucket. I read, the kids game and both engage your mind. Husband watches TV to unwind and that seems much less mentally engaging to me.

@Korhaka@sopuli.xyz homebrewing to me falls squarely into Cooking category. I also put cocktail making, and any fermentation in cooking. So "drinking" as a hobby isn't necessarily passive, can be creative like cooking. Putting Drinking in unacceptable hobbies, they might as well include Eating. The consuming of it isn't creative but the creation of the food & drink is. Also learning about wine, etc.

I don't think it's aliens or demons, but I do think the people of the future will look back on this time and see us as just as ignorant as the people who said there are demons. Whatever "it" is, it's not demons nor aliens.

Yes with new clothes because the basic fit varies among brands. So, for example, Gap & Madewell think average women are about 5'7" and built straight up and down, their women's clothes are longer and less curvy and fit me better than others usually.

Violence in general was out of control in the 1980s & 90s where I live, if you look at crime charts you can see a sharp drop since I was growing up here. It used to be ROUGH.

You'd have to ask the artist but that's what it looks like to me.