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I'm half expecting his next executive order to be that all ocean cleanup efforts must immediately cease and that in fact dumping in the ocean is now mandatory and anyone caught trying to dispose of trash sustainably will be jailed.

Seriously, it's gone long past the point where anyone has the slightest excuse of supporting this orange painted clown in his blonde wig and comically oversized tie without just looking like evil pieces of shit.

It's like he's actively making his way through a list of anything actually good that society has managed to achieve in the last few decades and dismantling it. I mean, we all hate cardboard straws but this clearly isn't about straws.

The guy seems to literally want to see smog fill the air and plastic fill the oceans. While simultaneously making sure that everyone is as fucking miserable as possible in terms of both human rights and economy. So what the fuck is anyone's excuse for supporting this? I don't believe that there is anything a Trump supporter could tell me now that would convince me that they're not just evil, cruel, profoundly stupid, walking talking pieces of shit.

I only noticed this in my feed now, so I'm late but I guess that's how it is on a platform with relatively low activity.

I also used to "fall in love" easily when I was young, so I feel like I can have quite a bit to say here. It's going to be a long post though.

If you're anything like I was, it almost feels like what being bipolar must feel like because you're fully aware that you're behaving badly but it's like the chemicals in your brain have gone haywire so you're not completely in the driver's seat. And I just want to say, that's not 'love'. It's a slow release poison that is killing you and any chance of love.

Personally I actually just bowed out of relationships for a long time because I knew that I was the problem that needed to solved first. I would maybe suggest making the conscious decision to stop thinking of relationships or “possible future partners” as even being a goal for a while. Make friends along the way but the person that you need to get to know first is yourself. And don't completely shut yourself off to having a bit of naughty fun once in a while either. But don't ever expect it or feel like you're owed it and if it comes along, do it with the mentality of no strings attached as a default instead of immediately seeing wedding bells in the future.

Just be careful though because once you learn to be happy in your relationship with yourself, it can be addictive. I kept it going for a little too long myself, so now I'm at the point where even though I wouldn't mind having a special someone, the idea of sharing a bed and a cupboard etc. kinda repulses me. I'm going to have to find a very specific kind of person that wants both love and independence at the same time at this point lol.

But that's part of finding out who you are. In fact part of my problem is that I'm at the very least aromantic. I just do not know how to receive or give the same cues that everyone else seems to be tuned into. So I mimicked my idea of 'romance' from romcoms and shit. And (metaphorically speaking because I wasn't quite that bad) I thought that serenading her with a guitar outside her window or chasing her down at the airport was how it was done and not borderline stalker behavior in the eyes of the person being 'serenaded' or chased. Also (and it took me a long time to come to this conclusion because I come from a country where we weren't educated on all this stuff), I have come to find that I am actually somewhere around non-binary in the gender spectrum and I think that people around me could tell that I wasn't completely cis long before I knew.

That's my journey though. You need to find your own answers. My point is that now I am better equipped with the knowledge that I need to try again. Some people have it all figured out from the start, some of us take a while longer.

Aaand sorry to keep going on but I'm also going to punt Relationship Anarchy. It's actually more about polyamory but I think that there's a lot of good ideas in here that can be applied to monogamous relationships or even just friendships. Namely as far as your jealousy issues go, I'm going to quote two sections.

Love and respect instead of entitlement:

Deciding to not base a relationship on a foundation of entitlement is about respecting others’ independence and self-determination. Your feelings for a person or your history together does not make you entitled to command and control a partner to comply with what is considered normal to do in a relationship. Explore how you can engage without stepping over boundaries and personal beliefs. Rather than looking for compromises in every situation, let loved ones choose paths that keep their integrity intact, without letting this mean a crisis for the relationship. Staying away from entitlement and demands is the only way to be sure that you are in a relationship that is truly mutual. Love is not more “real” when people compromise for each other because it’s part of what’s expected.

Trust is better:

Choosing to assume that your partner does not wish you harm leads you down a much more positive path than a distrustful approach where you need to be constantly validated by the other person to trust that they are there with you in the relationship. Sometimes people have so much going on inside themselves that there’s just no energy left to reach out and care for others. Create the kind of relationship where withdrawing is both supported and quickly forgiven, and give people lots of chances to talk, explain, see you and be responsible in the relationship. Remember your core values and to take care of yourself though!

And that is that. Sorry for the essay.

Like the other person said, find better friends. And I don't even mean that in a malicious way because I don't know them, or you personally. But speaking from personal experience, you're never going to vibe 100% with every person that you meet. With friends, quality is more important than quantity. And you're not stuck with them like family, you can choose people that don't make you feel like shit.

On a side note, I wish I had the mentality of picking up more work when I need to escape. My preferred method is usually to get lost in some over complicated RPG or to look for a series to binge watch.

Reddit is definitely trying the ragebait thing from what I saw before I left. With however the algorithm works there these days, /r/all actually got pretty good at showing me more of what I'm interested in (same as adverts to be honest, I did not mind getting random romance fantasy novels and shit advertised to me), which made me even more suspicious every time it would slip /r/conservative into my feed, even if the post only had like 10 upvotes.

And maybe it's just in my imagination but I would especially start seeing subs like conservative after literally just being active in subreddits that shit on conservatives. So it felt a lot to me like Reddit's algorithm was actively trying to bait me at times to get into fights in places I should just ignore or block.

Based on what I've seen so far, Thekla would immediately add a strong language rating to the show lol. She could definitely work as the heel commentator that makes excuses or looks the other way when someone does something bad though.

I'd still love to actually learn Japanese though. I say that but my life is basically full of unfinished projects and plans with no action lol so, we'll see if that ever actually happens. But one thing that I still feel like I'm missing out on that subtitles and commentary will probably never fully cover is all of the shit talking in the ring. Which there is a lot of. And a lot of these women seem fucking hilarious.

Which right now, makes Thekla's chirps especially funny because it's a rare time I can understand exactly what someone is saying. The latest one I just saw was her saying to the ref "why are you always on my ass, bro?" None of the audience reacted but I thought it was fucking funny.

Oh very cool. I've actually been considering giving the Google Translate app or something similar that can translate speech a try lol.

I would honestly prefer just subtitles to gaijin commentary. I went back and watched Historic X-over 1. Thought I might as well seeing as there's only been two so far and watched the English commentary. And while it was nice getting an English break down of Mayu Iwatani and Kairi's backstories for example, those commentators were such fucking dorks lol.

I think it has the same problem for me as English commentary for Mexican stuff has been in my experience so far. They don't come across as part of the show but rather tourists or outsiders, or fans, which I guess they are. So I don't believe them when they start putting on their 'emotional' big fight Michael Cole voices.

It's better than nothing but if Stardom were to ever get English commentary or at least show hosts, I would way prefer if it was someone homegrown that can speak English, even if it's not perfect English, over Americans or Brits that come across more like people who post in wrestling forums than a part of the show.

While I'm kinda between promotions and exploring my options, I might as well throw hearsay and assumptions out the window and give AEW and ROH a decent shot again. Probably gonna burn myself out in a few months time lol but it's been a long time since I've made the effort to check out everything else and I'm enjoying it for now at least.

Nice, thanks. I never think about checking YouTube for wrestling. I think a few smaller / indie promotions use YouTube. And TNA of course.

If I had to guess, they're probably copying what they see in easy to access for all ages online porn.

I only really started addressing where I fit in the spectrum of things late in life. And something that a lot of people on the non-binary sub on Reddit said was that non-binary is trans because to be trans doesn't mean 'has transitioned', it means that you don't identify with your assigned gender at birth. Simply put, transgender means not cisgender.

But there also seems to be a general understanding that not everyone sees it the same way or has come to the same conclusions. Something I've found since I started really addressing some things, is that online at least, nb people seem to be pretty lax and open minded as far as labels and definitions. Probably because a lot are still actively in the process of questioning and self discovery themselves. If there's even a finish line for self discovery in the first place.

I'll get around to checking out AEW again. I'm going to be watching the crossovers while I'm catching up with Stardom here for a bit of variety, which gives me Forbidden Door 2024 to still get to.

And maybe I'll check out EVE some time. UK wrestling in general seems to be rare to come across in the wild on the internet.

I think there's about 3 different communities in Blåhaj that are for asexual, aromantic, agender people, or combinations thereof.

There appears to be no active asexual community

This seems to be a hurdle that Lemmy needs to get over in general. Communities are inactive because any new users checking them out see no activity and go elsewhere. So it's a catch 22 or vicious circle or whatever. I'm guilty of this too.

But really, these communities will never become active if everyone keeps doing this. It has to start somewhere. I'm willing to bet that if you choose one of the Blåhaj communities, you'll probably get responses from other people that have been waiting for more activity too.