I couldn't see these, am I doing Internet bad or are the links broken?
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Some people can't afford the cost of giving a shit, and expecting everyone to have the same levels of economic freedom and access to food and clothing needs as you do is a position coming from ignorance and privilege. Even thinking of moving as a voluntary thing is from that same position.
If you can be vegan and can afford to live that lifestyle, great, that's a moral thing to do.
If you're starving on the street you don't have the option.
The fact veganism is an option some people can choose and others can't makes it a privilege.
When you're in desperate levels of food scarcity, you don't have room to be picky. When you are relying on borrowed/stolen/passed down or thrifted clothing, you're going to wear what you can get.
Veganism is an ethical choice, but it's a choice some people aren't in a position to make.
That's what makes it a privilege.
I think that calling veganism privileged is a response to the more militant vegans who don't realize that economic hardship and food scarcity can make their version of veganism unsustainable for some people.
This seems more like a promotion for his trip than anything.
Look, making friends is easy AF.
For friendships to form you have to have proximity, a shared experience, and continued interaction.
In school you had these pretty easily, you were stuck there most of the year and experienced the same things, and you interacted all the time. Eventually you found common ground and boom, friends.
Hard to do as an adult, but here's how to do it.
Get a hobby or an interest, then go to a meet up of that stuff. You like anime? Go to a con. Cars? Car show. Whatever.
Then everyone there already has a built in ice breaker! Talk to them about that thing you're all the for! Ask people about themselves, get interested in others! Everyone loves to talk about themselves. You'll make more friends in five minutes getting interested in other people than you will in five years trying to get someone interested in you.
If they seem cool by the end of the event, say "hey you seem cool wanna hang out some time?" And exchange contact info and then talk to them once in a while. Then hang out when you can. Introduce them to other friends you have, they will do the same.
If they suck and are assholes, don't hang out with them anymore
That mode of thinking only works if you assume all potential partners are the same. There are women who don't want, nor expect, the guy to pay for everything. There's stories of relationships getting better when men open up and women really appreciating that. Saying you'll be alone forever is not only a hard sell but also a lie.
There's a confusion happening. I think people are thinking "toxic masculinity" means all masculine traits are toxic, and I feel that's not the case.
It's not that masculine traits are good or bad, it's that they become "toxic" when they become dysfunctional.
For example, a masculine trait is being able to endure hardship, to be kind of stoic. This can be a positive trait when working out, instead of whining to everyone about how heavy weights are you keep going and finish your set. It can be negative when you feel like you can't cry at a funeral, trying to be manly when you're sad.
The solution, in my opinion, isn't to act less manly but embrace other aspects of manliness. Instead of refusing to cry, you can embrace the idea that men will do as they want regardless of the negative opinions and doubts of others, and cry as much as you want at a funeral.
It's not effeminate to cry at a funeral, and is now a manly thing to cry at a funeral.
So yeah, women like masculine traits (at least the women who like men tend to), but they don't like it when people use the excuse of masculine traits hurt them, people around them, or the men they love.
Why tf would you associate with men who would punish you if you don't "live up to a masculine ideal"? You're not out of the "masculinity rat race" if you don't do something that some people see as not manly.
If you're a man, you get to define what masculinity is and means. If that means monster trucks and guns, cool. If that means baking cookies and taking care of a baby, cool. You're a man so by default everything you do is manly.
Yeah it looks just like that but with cars
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