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I believed that I had to be certain way in society or I was fundamentally flawed and bad.

I dropped that belief, acknowledge that to some point it's convenient for me to follow societal norms but trying to fit in makes me mostly miserable. I naturally don't want to do things that bother other people but I also don't really want to be around them so why should I try to be likeable to them any more than is normal to me. This way people who like me, are sure to like me as I am. If I like them enough, I'll naturally also want to be considerate of them, even if I have to occasionally behave a little different.

I somehow made it very complicated with just beating myself up for being bad/stupid/ugly/broken because I kept believing people who I don't even like.

You wait and digest. Don't rush into the next thing just because you think you're supposed to.

There's just way more content today but probably the percentage of good vs. bad hasn't changed much. Finding the good in the sea of bad might be harder though. Actively maintain and curate your feeds.

And keep around indie web and federation etc. Internet used to be a niche domain of the nerds. It is happening again where some find it's just the time to depart from the mainstream web. Just don't get too attached to visible engagement.

Few options that don't necessarily even require a whole lot of capital (and I'm already doing one of these):

• Work in finance (and stay educated to be good at it), donate as much as possible to well researched charities.

• Work in healthcare, volunteer your services where they'd be otherwise unavailable.

• Build a community with certain values and offer life-enhancing (basically odd jobs) services freely to people outside the community. Or just offer community, just be transparent about the rules and expectations (don't be a cult).

If you want to be friends with people interested in certain stuff, it's a good idea to know about that stuff.

Pop culture is easy and common, meaning you'll increase the amount of people available to make friends with.

I know a little about a lot of things to the point that I can easily make pleasant, inconsequential conversation with most people as I somehow learned small talking growing up but being an introvert, I'm not particularly interested in making friends with anyone who isn't into the stuff I really care about.

Certainly we must rely on experience to learn anything about matter so from an epistemological point of view it is the foundation of knowledge but I do think we can discover a deeper foundation for reality through science.

There's the crux of it. Problem is that science is the product of the human mind. Experience isn't just the foundation of knowledge, it has to be the foundation of everything because to say anything about anything, nonsense or science, you need experience first. This includes any idea about what matter is or isn't. We must first have an experience, and then we conceptualize it in some way - and then we try to desperately conceptualize it in a way that makes sense in the context of our previous conceptualizations. Because ironically, while some people insist on matter being prior, without realizing it they often make the human mind equally prior ("thoughts ARE the thing itself"). Bring them the map-territory problem and they get it, but it's often hard to get them to apply the same idea onto their own mind.

To be sure, science is a great and reliable way to make predictions. However, ultimate reality will always be grander than anything the mind can capture, and as such, science will never be able to distill it either. That said, one hopes, eventually science will meet this realization (and indeed some scientists have). To put it very shortly, as long as one insists on a logical continuum, one can keep asking "and what's beyond that" as logic necessarily requires a continuum of values to function. Foundation on which logic operates though, must be beyond what can be captured with logic.

You know, I feel like I see a surprising amount of people on Lemmy who have stepped out of the basic materialistic view. It's encouraging but also a bit bizarre. There seems to be a weird subsection of people who are able enough computer nerds to not be scared by the interface here, but have actually looked into some pretty deep philosophical stuff (though some definitely have just done enough psychedelics). I include myself in the weird subsection of course but I really didn't expect to see as many others here as I have.

Assuming people are actually able and willing to recognize when they start hiding in circular reasoning (or other logical fallacies but by experience, begging the question is most common):

Argument about matter being the foundation of reality. It's not. And I'd start by questioning your understanding of the word "matter".

No grift, it gets deep into consciousness studies and ai ethics. Just because it's not from the perspective of western material science, doesn't mean it's useless. Especially when consciousness studies benefit a lot from eastern philosophy. In general, you might want to actually learn a bit about philosophy if you want to make comments on the topic.

Considering the podcast is 2h and you posted this within 30minutes of me posting this, I'm gonna guess you didn't listen.

Look into Waking Up app. Listen to the talks on psychedelics.

Makes a fun sound.