Here in Sweden it used to be praxis for parties in parliament to abstain rather than voting no if they opposed a proposed government for whom they had no better alternative.
Then the nazis came into parliament and threw that praxis out the window and thus ruined a system that had worked great for over half a century.
Having voter's remorse in 2017 is reasonable and justified. Voting for Trump in 2024 means that you are a very bad person. That's the difference.
Also, people blame the Republican party all the time, including in this instance.
Also, people blame nonvoters all the time.
Also, more than one kind of person exists on Lemmy. You wouldn't say "IRL blames democratic party" because that sentence makes no sense. The same is true for what you just wrote.
TL;DR: you couldn't be more wrong than you are.