My go-to is to ask what they like to do in their spare time.

A lot of the time you’ll get answers about how they have none or how it’s filled with chores, but you can always redirect and say, if you suddenly had a bunch of free time just for yourself, and you couldn’t use it to work, what would you fill it with?

In my mind the latter gets you down to what brings them joy, and in some cases how they want to see themselves, which can tell you a lot about a person.

I love this.

It’s one of my passing hobbies to look up word lists like this - some of them are beautiful, and there’s something really satisfying about knowing this obscure and weird thing you’re experiencing is at least “normal” enough to have its own name.

Then I promptly forget, which is annoying, bit also means I get to discover them all over again a few months later.

On this list I can easily identify with 7/8 too

Other words you might appreciate:

Routineer: one that adheres to or insists on routine

Fika: a moment to slow down and appreciate the little things in life

Philocalist: lover of beauty; someone who finds beauty in all things

Querencia: a sanctuary where you feel safe …or even better, Snuggery: a cozy room

Fleshment: excitement associated with a successful beginning (we won’t talk about finishing the project)

Acatalepsy: the idea that it is impossible to truly comprehend anything

I mean… you don’t.

It’s like the old “pick two” saying

You can have cheap and nice, but it’ll be really far (from any city these days, not just the gta)

Or you can have cheap and not far, but absolutely not nice. Lucky if it’s not condemned, honestly.

You cannot have all three. Genuinely sorry :/

I get it.

I’m not a dude or a parent… but these jokes are so stupid and clever and wholesome, they’re a simple breath of fresh air in a complicated, smoggy world.

Never understood why they’re referred to as “dad jokes” but then again I never had one, so w/e. They’re great and I’m here for them.

lemmy.ca has blocked it too.

good eggs, those admins.

Ragebait. It's boring and pointless, and it brings out the worst in everyone. I never understood the appeal of being a "troll" though, so idk.

Something else I don't miss, and maybe this is a little more personal, but often when I would try to participate in a conversation, my comment would get auto-removed for some rule/etiquette based reason I could never really wrap my head around. Like, derailing? I thought I knew what that meant, but had comments removed when I was like, "yeah that answer really resonates with me too! My 123 is xyz."

Lemmy so far has been much more welcoming to the neurodiverse and I appreciate the organic, freeflowing nature of conversation here.

Obviously, if someone's being provocatively hateful / an obvious troll, then nuke 'em.

But if people are just trying to join in on the conversation, don't be a pedantic dick about exactly what kind of conversation is allowed. It had gotten to the point where I was afraid to comment at all for fear I'd be doing it wrong.

Someone did make goblincore, but it’s still mostly empty and I’m not talented enough to contribute lol

I loved looking through all the mossy green nature pics, tiny ecoscapes, mushrooms, frogs, and forest-witch style craftsmanship from people much more creative than myself

Of all the places to come and spew garbage. It’s a room for discussing an app… like get a hobby, damn.

Dude you are absolutely killing it.

Do you sleep??

Memmy just keeps getting better. Thank you for all your hard work.

Yeah I think a lot of people equate education with overall intelligence, and that’s just not how it works.

I’ve personally known an anti-vaxxer with a PhD, MDs who wrote at a middling grade 8 level, and a literal rocket scientist who never could figure out his email lol

Highly educated people can be brilliant in their specific fields of study, while being absolute morons in other areas. They just had all the right opportunities, money, and the time/skills/ability to study, memorize, and pass tests.

I actually know at least a couple high school grads whom I’d consider more broadly intelligent than some of the MD & PhD holders I’ve worked with over the years.

I’ve been hearing good things about peertube and pixelfed, but have yet to really dive into either. Both are free and decentralized like lemmy though :)

https://joinpeertube.org (positioned to replace youtube)

https://pixelfed.org (more like instagram?)

I can’t believe I’m only now looking into the decentralized side of the social internet - I’m usually an early adopter lol. Been a boiling frog in corporate for too long.

I’m super pissed about this.

I have a ton of client domains registered with google, and squarespace’s pricing is double.

They had by far the best platform I’ve used for managing domains. This sucks.