[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 101 points 1 year ago

Such a valid point; success should not be measured only in dollars. I began explaining the basics of the Fediverse with some of my friends and the first question they asked was, “How do people even make money on there then?” It’s a bit disheartening to see how money-driven things are for some people.

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doctors say it’s terminal

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(a mushroom!)

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 13 points 1 year ago

I had an ex-gf that would sit down for showers when possible, and sometimes fall asleep lol

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The social benefits are great and I heard the flag is a big plus

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 7 points 1 year ago

My wife says I’m cheap, but idk. I’m not buying it

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Thank you. It’s not a common acronym; I just didn’t see a way I wanted to shorten it haha.

Outside of this post with the link, people that search “addiction” would probably see the community. I posted essentially this same post in other instances’ chat communities, and made sure this new community was discoverable by lemmy.world, beehaw.org, vlemmy.net, lemmy.one, and kbin.social. I also asked that the mental health community lists this as a “related community.”

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An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

!fafopwa@vlemmy.net

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An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

!fafopwa@vlemmy.net

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An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

!fafopwa@vlemmy.net

Just thought I’d share an avenue for Beehaw members that may be interested. Please direct me to a different place to post if this would be better suited elsewhere.

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An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

!fafopwa@vlemmy.net

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by loopy@vlemmy.net to c/fafopwa@vlemmy.net

Hi everyone, my name is loopy and I created this lemmy community to make a space for people to share and support each other through the challenges of having a friend or family member struggling with addiction. As the sidebar says, this is not to replace therapy; think of it like an online support group.

I’ll get the ball rolling a little bit by sharing that my BIL has been struggling with addiction. First to opioids, then to his Adderall prescription. The mood swings are an understatement. I get glimpses of sobriety but then the cycles continue. It honestly gets pretty exhausting to keep trying to have empathy only to be let down again.

My wife and my focus lately has been setting boundaries. He knows how to manipulate my wife, so I said that we all need to be present when deciding something (eg if he is staying at our house for the weekend). It feels uncomfortable for her, but it has been minimizing the stress. I have learned the valuable lesson of keeping yourself safe and well first. This is basically not possible for my wife to set this boundary with him, so my role has been a lot of reassurance and being consistent.

Another essential lesson we have discovered is to distinctly define roles. We are not therapists and cannot be a detox center. We have literally tried because he talked us into it.

The last recent thing we concluded is that the whole process has to be their decision. No matter how badly we want for him to succeed and how many ways we facilitate that success, if he doesn’t want to do it, he will find any excuse not to follow through. Actions are the only way to measure progress (words and promises aren’t worth much), and he must follow through first.

We love him and truly wish for him to thrive in life. It is heartbreaking to see the lows, but as long as we don’t compromise on our own well-being, we will continue supporting him on his journey to recovery.

How have you all managed? How has addiction affected your life? Personally, I would love nothing more than to see some success stories to encourage others, but I know those are sometimes rare.

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created with MidJourney by VorgBardo

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created with MidJourney by VorgBardo

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 8 points 1 year ago

I found beehaw first, so I started there but then discovered that the admins manage the community creation there. So I made a new account on lemmy.world to mod that, and most browsed with my beehaw account. But then beehaw needed to de-federate from lemmy.world, so I made a vLemmy and lemmy.one accounts so I could interact with both beehaw and lemmy.world.

tl;dr As someone else mentioned, finding a smaller, low-profile instance to have your home account but interacting with other instances seems to be the best approach

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Concept art from the live-action Avatar: The Last Airbender movie

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Artist unknown. From Dreamer on Tumblr

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 2 points 1 year ago

I personally love !dadjokes@lemmy.world

I may be a little biased because I mod it ;)

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I’m sorry for hear that; I hope everything turns out alright.

I guess it depends on their type of humor. I don’t have memes, but I know a few dad jokes.

Did you hear about that other guy that got all of those toy horses stuck up his rectum? …Don’t worry, they’re saying his condition is stable

Have you seen that movie called Constipation? …It still hasn’t come out.

Sorry, I have this illness that I make airplane puns. …Doctors say it’s terminal

Speaking of doctors, do you know what kind of doctor that Dr Pepper is? …A fizz-ician

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 2 points 1 year ago

I think visiting a part of history really helps a person appreciate what happened. Seeing something in-person is sometimes just so much more of an experience than a video. I personally would be pretty scared to go in a submarine but I can see the appeal to have a unique historical experience.

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 3 points 1 year ago

Every without father-hood, we can wear our father hat

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 2 points 1 year ago

To that I say, nay my good sir

[-] loopy@vlemmy.net 7 points 1 year ago

It would behoove her to save her voice, or she might get other problems besides her mane issue.

That one made me blow air through my nose :)

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