lemmy trends very anti-reddit and in general is very strict about the kinds of views you are allowed to have here. the idea of wanting to go back to reddit is a very big no-no here.
i generally mesh well with about 80% of lemmy ideology but if I ever speak out about that 20% I tend to get downvoted to oblivion
it's nice you all found well balanced queer people to befriend but keep in mind we also may not be as mentally put together as you perceive. i say this as a gay dude with lots of issues.