my last ex did this kind of thing with me when i wanted to assert my boundaries by explaining i did not want to be involved in constant death spirals, and then telling me that me leaving them was killing them and also i was crossing their boundaries by asserting my boundaries (???)

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Israel

oh golly, oh joy! i sure do love assigning all of the people i don't like into the same group of people with a mental disorder, thus perpetuating the artificial class divide of the mentally well versus the mentally ill! surely this will have no unintended consequences on swathes of the population who have that mental disorder or are otherwise considered disordered but are also "functional" enough to blend in with less-marginalized society!

Until I saw thia message, I entirely thought that this post was suggesting using a condom to choke oneself to death.

"kuno don' fuckin care" vibes

mold is a biohazard

While I do believe the other commenter is making a gross simplification of the reasons the average conservative does what they do, there is genuine merit in recognizing the relationship between US Republicans (or conservative movements and groups in general) and facism. The ideological cudgels they use are based in the same foundations, utilize the same rhetoric, and are often intended by their progenators to reach the same end goals. If you are a European, you should have some interest in this - after all, the US of A is not the only country struggling with facist rhetoric being normalized in its culture.

it's wednesday

good thing i'm learning godot instead lmao

I literally go to college with a cis woman who looks like you. To say the least, she is well-loved. Don't beat yourself up over your looks.

Please stop being so hard on yourself. Selfies can make you look better or worse - that's just how camera angles, camera settings, and environmental lighting are. Literally everyone has conditions that make them look worse in a camera. Realistically, the graduation photo is absolutely not how most people see you - every ID of mine taken in similar conditions looks like total shit to me. And before you say mirrors make you look awful too, that's also a known phenonemon - I can personally attest to the hell that mirrors give me most days. You need to understand that the world around you does not see you as horribly as you see yourself. I'm not going to argue with you whether you should stay on HRT - that's a dexision on feelings I can't know - but I do know that at the very least, if you want to feel better when looking at your own pictures, it has to start with you conditioning yourself to hate yourself less. When you feel like calling yourself ugly, criticize that thought. Pick apart your own biases, and find a way of not just looking better, but looking at yourself better. It will be immensely difficult, but it will be oh-so worth it. Otherwise, no matter how close you get to your goals, you will never look aesthetically pleasinng to yourself while your self-loathing still blinds you.

And please, get therapy. You look relatively young, and so if you are (usually like under the age of 21 is good enough for this depending on where you live), you might be able to get therapy for reduced or no cost. Assuming that's a high school and not college graduation photo and that you are either going to or will be going to college, you can also usually seek therapy through the college (again, typically for a greatly reduced cost), though that tends to be a bit more varied in how well-versed they are in issues like this in particular. Furthermore, chances are, there may be a queer community center anywhere from half an hour to two hours away from you - if they're in the same state as you (assuming you're in the United States), it should be fine, as they also happen to have online therapy, and community centers tend to have more cost-accessible therapy. Online therapy is typically better than no therapy, so please do not discount that as an option if it would be more accessible in some way to you.

RIP RIF