I would recommend learning how to play roll20 (free to play virtual table top) and finding a westmarches Discord server. I moved to an area where I have zero friends and got into playing dnd that way. It's pretty fun, flexible scheduling, out of game roleplaying whenever. I'm a 38 y/o cis male so I can't say there will be no issues, cus I never really experienced them at all. I'd totally imagine you'd have a different, and hopefully better, experience than irl games. Feel free to DM if you'd like more info.

I know when you are pretending to look at your phone as an excuse to stare at my tits. Stop.

While this may be true, I brought a laptop on a game yesterday and I'm not sure the girl on the opposite side of the table didn't think something like that when my eyes were on top of the screen. Which was a lot of times, because naturally all the people are above the screen and only the keyboard and the table are below the screen.

So - please consider the fact that if there's a direct line of sight to your tits, and someone has to look in that general direction, they may occasionally from time to time look there. And also that due to, eh, basic uncontrollable instincts they may do that unconsciously a bit more than they need. Like looking at a bunch of pencils and noticing the red ones more than the grey ones.

Also when I talk to girls about my hobbies, they very often apparently perceive this as some nonsense to get romantic. Usually that means that they gradually ignore me more and more and refuse to believe that it's more complex. Though kinda recently (and long ago before that which led to a trauma, but eh) it was me who thought that they are fine with talking about hobbies, while being more romantic was expected, eventually led to being ignored too.

..people secretly stare like that? What? Tbh, it is unfair that people can get away with that yet I cannot ever have social interactions by me being autistic.