Oh I'm well aware, it was the combination of the two that makes it worse.

For example: JFK was killed without consent by a stranger. Rosemary had a lobotomy performed on her without her consent under orders from her family. So the fact it was family and not a stranger makes it worse in my opinion.

Otherwise, suicide is a choice, so it lessons the fact that it was done by someone very close (ie the one commiting suicide). It's a choice made when one is in a state of mind where they shouldn't be making choices of such magnitude, but it's still a choice.