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Am I love bombing?
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this post was submitted on 25 Jul 2023
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So afaik love bombing requires you to be trying to get something out of it. Like if you were an asshole, and threw a chair through a window, and raged for an hour and stormed out of the house. Then you come with flowers, and candy, and some big elaborate date, in order to get them to forgive you and stay. That's love bombing. You're manipulating the person into thinking you'll never do it again, and you'll change, and all that BS.
IIRC it also applies to people who neg others. Say a whole mess of shitty things to someone, to bring their self esteem down, and then throw a compliment every so often, to keep them hooked.
It sounds like you really felt the way you said, and didn't have an ulterior motive, so love bombing doesn't apply.