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this post was submitted on 15 Sep 2024
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Showerthoughts
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Ultimately, we're discussing two different styles of communication that I don't see as any better or worse than each other - everyone finds what works for them in their circumstances and environment and your style probably works great for yours!
There's a fair bit of hostility and harassment I encounter in public for various reasons, and I also have some inherent difficulty processing speech and verbalizing. As a result, I take a pretty blunt approach to communication - one in which I do not mind showing that I'm angry, because that is a necessary thing to be sometimes.
I practice mindfulness a lot and do not generally feel required to say the first thing that comes to mind. But if a drunk asshole is following me home, I'm not looking to outwit em. I'm looking to stay focused on my safety while letting em know that I see em and I'm probably more trouble than they're looking for.
In serious conversation with people I care about, I do swear, but it's because phrases like "I'm so fucking sorry that happened to you" come naturally to me and are effective. The emphasis that a little bit of swearing can add in moments like that is pretty useful.
This all doesn't have to be your thing, like I said this is all down to personal preference - but it would be a mistake to assume that people who swear aren't communicating as meaningfully. It's just another tool that we have at our disposal.
Sorry to hear about the speech problem; and I can relate to the hostility problem (It's why I try to understand others rather than freak-out and get nasty, although I'm not perfect at it).
Unironically, the reason I don't curse is because it helps me speak better and focus on the emotions (that I've) that aren't so clear to me. Cursing - from my point of view - can get in the way of understanding and engagment of speech & emotions.
As for picking one or the other, let me try to put the shower thought in one sentence, since I seem to have lost the original point, somewhere in having these coversations:
Cursing is uncreative & tends to be use as filler words.
Maybe it's too obvious to people that they assumed more than needed (the - "there's always something better to say," probably didn't help, I'll admit that.)
I genuinely thought it was intersting idea, since I've used them as filler words & I heard others do it too.
I noticing trends with the post, and - while responding - starting to see the can of worms I've opened up; I really thought this post would get something around 3 votes and 1 comment.
I understand and relate to most of speech ( and in art in general ) can boil down to personal preferences.
Speech to me can be a little bit more than that, but I'll rest my case here.