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Popular Female Skyrim Modder Has Abandoned Her Work Due to Daily Harrassment
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I always hate these kinds of responses. Let me just go to the extreme, would you say the same if someone made broad negative generalizations about a race?
If you're a woman keep your drinks covered around men. Responding not all men is pointless even tho I'm a man and I don't think women should be afraid of me but I get it that they could be and the person that could help change this the most is me and men not women.
And again this is a pointless tangent to the original statement.
As a man who grew up listening their ever perpetually single mom constantly complain about how all men are shit, this comment is the the influence I need to see more of coming from more people who are also men.
I'm constantly trying to be better all the time. I just feel like I don't know how not to get offended by generalizations that I know don't apply to me but the more I see other guys say stuff like what you just said, it kinda helps because just seeing them say it makes me want to adopt that mentality and get out if the one that if I fall under a group that receives criticism my feelings are hurt.
You gotta have some more self awareness, man. Stop trying to please those who are always complaining, and just be a good person for the sake of being a good person. Don't do things to gain favor in the eyes of others.
And if you're not part of the problem (i.e. you're not a total piece of shit), then those complaints don't apply to you anyway. If someone comes up to you and starts blaming you for societal problems simply because you're a man... that's someone you don't wanna be involved with anyway.
I've lived by that first paragraph my whole life, I just meant how hard it is to not feel like someone is blaming me personally, or including me when they say a thing about men, just because I'm a man too. And btw, I've been not involved with that toxic parent since I was 26 (I'm 32 now)
Like idk how to not to let my feelings be hurt that women would rather encounter a bear than me when I'm trying to be the change I want to see in the world.
I talked to my girlfriejd about it and she said "yeah well you're not one of those men in the scenario, you have no reason to be offended, you're one of the good ones" and logically I know shes right, and I appreciated hearing that.
I just gotta see how other men keep from getting offended so easily so I can learn from them
I'm 36 and I'm not hurt by it at all. I completely understand why so many women would choose the bear. I also have three daughters (including a teenager), so I guess that helped to put things into perspective for me, but still... There are, unfortunately, a lot of men who have sexually assaulted women, and because men are the "default" in a lot of authority positions, it's easy for men like that to assume that everyone wants what they want, including sexual advances; no matter how minimal.
Like I said - if you're not the kind of man that does this kind of thing, great, but you gotta let it roll off your back. The complaints are legitimate, and I'll bet your gf has experienced it herself. My wife has, and even my ex-wife has as well.
I'll give you a tip: Instead of asking "how do I not feel offended", ask yourself (and you could ask your gf as well) "how can I help to make the situation better?" It's absolutely an uncomfortable situation, and acknowledging it goes a long way.
Man, thank you, and I appreciate you for taking the time to type all that out. I agree with everything i just read.
Since you mentioned it, you're right my gf is unfortunately a victim of rape.
I'm gonna remember your tip and use it always.
Those generalizations are harmful indeed and should not be tolerated as it breeds Us vs. Them mentality. Just asking the person not to be offended when they have every right to be with "if you are not part of the problem" is the modernized "I am not racist, but" and "No, I meant the other type of foreigners, not you". Misandry is a thing. Just because one comes from a misogynistic surrounding, doesn't mean other experiences are suddenly not real.
People bound by unhinged radical feminists, and I do mean the Crazy-Karen-On-Video crowd, mutter every other second a misandric sentence. Of course this crap erodes your self-worth. You are literally being demeaned for absolutely nothing. Speak up to shut them up. If women find the energy to speak against harmful notions like, so should everyone else, if they see inacceptably demeaning behaviour which differs fundamentally from appropriate criticism.