I'm 36 and I'm not hurt by it at all. I completely understand why so many women would choose the bear. I also have three daughters (including a teenager), so I guess that helped to put things into perspective for me, but still... There are, unfortunately, a lot of men who have sexually assaulted women, and because men are the "default" in a lot of authority positions, it's easy for men like that to assume that everyone wants what they want, including sexual advances; no matter how minimal.

Like I said - if you're not the kind of man that does this kind of thing, great, but you gotta let it roll off your back. The complaints are legitimate, and I'll bet your gf has experienced it herself. My wife has, and even my ex-wife has as well.

I'll give you a tip: Instead of asking "how do I not feel offended", ask yourself (and you could ask your gf as well) "how can I help to make the situation better?" It's absolutely an uncomfortable situation, and acknowledging it goes a long way.