If NATO tries to get Ukraine to join, the war will be prolonged and escalated. If they don't, then what the fuck was Ukraine holding out so long for?

NATO is stuck in between a rock and a hard place. There is no way for them to come out of this without taking a massive hit to their reputation (which would be well deserved).

This video is only further proof of this. Europe and America can only "solve" this contradiction in the tried and tested way. Choose the easiest option, loot the parties involved, massage public opinion then move on. And often these steps don't even happen in order.