askchapo

Was talking with my chef who's ten years older and had some pretty hard ass parents growing up while watching kids run around the restaurant and how as kids it was something neither of us had even considered. He went to the perceived and understood threat from his parents. For me it was cause I didn't see anyone else running around and the vibe was clearly not that, there are people carrying trays of drinks and hot food around, I can't recall ever even the passing thought. Also my parents figured out pretty early that a pen and a few sheets of paper would keep me happy in boring situations and that's a big part of how I got gud at art. They got that a toddler is a pretty impatient person and gave me a distraction that I'd spend hours at home doing anyway. Even other people my age growing seemed to either have overbearing or not giving a shit parents. Mine just treated me like a person, dude I work with now is still mind blown that my parents are not only gamers, when I visit we often play video games together and we did when I was growing up too and pretty often, at least 3 times a week we'd boot up the GameCube together and play some Mario Kart or melee and sometimes other shit. Back on n64 my dad and I became a really good doubles team in Mario tennis when he got shoulder surgery and had the summer off with me. They have their own switch and have 100% completed Mario Wonder. And they kinda just went along with my going full stenchcore mode for my late teens until almost recently, they just kinda seem to understand that I will do what I want anyway so best to just be supportive. Hell, they even understand that things are waaaaaay more fucked for me than it was for them at their age and are willing to help out because of it. Rent has skyrocketed at Mach speeds, grocery prices had tripled over the last 8 years or so let alone when they were my age and wages are stagnant and good jobs aren't there. They get it and they get how lucky they got. I find it offputting when parents talk down to their kids let alone anything that would be considered abuse legally.