I've been on and off playing witcher 3 the last couple months. Just got to the skelliga main quest where Yennefer tells Geralt to get out of his armor and wear something nice to some social event (which btw doesn't make sense, my armor is way better looking than the tunic options). It reminded me of the quest where Triss asked the same thing so I decided to check online if doing so would ruin my Triss romance.

Only to learn that I had already failed the Triss romance because I picked "We can try again" instead of "I love you" when she was at the harbor. Up until that point the vibes between Geralt and Triss has been "we had a thing in the past but it's no more" so I thought that option was right for getting them together again. I had assumed that had no immediate effect but was just one of many dialogues that eventually lead to romancing Triss but nope, that was it apparently. Much discourse online about how there used to be a bug that let you romance with "We can try again" but nobody's talking about how that's the more reasonable option.

And also I'm just now realizing that Novigrad was the Triss area and Skelliga is the Yennefer area and there will be many quests there to get to know Yen, which makes me think did I do Now or Never too early? But like, once you go to the party with Triss the city is just in chaos so I felt obligated to follow that questline to the end. Also there's the relative low levels of those quests and the way Geralt seemingly gets stranded in Skelliga when he travels there that made me think everything that's not a red skull on novigrad comes before Skelliga story-wise.

When I first heard that you need to choose between Triss and Yennefer in this game choosing Triss felt like a no brainer since she's been around the last 2 games and declares she'll never leave Geralt's side in the last one. And it rubs me the wrong way how Geralt acts all hot around Yennefer unprompted but doesn't act warm around Triss even if you try to. I get that Yennefer was his wife or whatever in the books but like the last 2 games still happened and in the beginning even Yennefer says Geralt and Triss had a nice thing going.

So do I go back to end of now or never and change the answer? Do I go back further and leave novigrad when it was in chaos? Even further before the questline began?

But also also while looking up how to not fuck up romance I read that apparently Yennefer's endgame quest is amazing and Triss's is an afterthought.. and I do want to play the good quest instead of the bad one..