Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Premium comment, and yes to much of this to some variety.
Go out there and become yourself. Being the new you and taking care of that new human, whether better self care or different self care, is a learning curve but the best way to go forward.
premium, huh? Should I start a Patreon? 😝
Thank you for your compliments ❤️
And I think "go out there and become yourself" is a good summary, though I remember being very early in transition and feeling entirely clueless about what it meant to "be myself" - this phrase and language came up a lot, esp. from supportive cis allies. Everyone thought it was so great I was "being myself", but I never felt my transition was ever about being myself, really (or what that meant, even).
After decades of repression I was so dissociated and disconnected from myself, my desires, etc. Eventually I realized on a cognitive level that when I did things to facilitate feeling like a woman, I seemed to feel good or at least less bad (and feeling masculine made me feel worse). From there I eventually came around to "go out there and be a woman" - and that ended up working for me pretty well. I don't know who I am, but I know being a woman in the world consistently makes me feel good.
All this to say, sometimes the trans experience can be fractured and difficult to piece together or interpret, and I try to be sensitive to that, since it is my own experience as a trans person. This makes it hard to summarize or communicate effectively for every kind of trans experience out there.
Some people have a good sense of self, some don't.
I agree with you.
I don’t mean to hurt anyone with me shortening my words, I’ve been getting lost in my desire to write more and liked how I wrote it.
I’ve been on my own rough journey, I was lost in my armor well up til I hit 30’s, I remember the moment I saw my self for the first time and everything started making better sense. Going out there and becoming myself was just that. I had to go out of my comfort zone, challenge my fears and make that next step to figuring myself out and becoming me. My life didn’t start when I got married, when we had our first kid. It started when I came out to myself. All those were just layers of connection on top of my self. I didn’t know my self, so I just used my 「Autistic High Masking Magic」 to make a shell and navigate the world with no self guided direction.
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