hexbear

Gotta be honest this is a you issue and it's incredibly shitty. You're combining the 2 incredibly fun tropes of "noble poor" and "the worst thing about poverty is that I have to see it".

People asking for help don't actually owe it to you to prove that they're min/maxing money that you gave them. There is no amount of money that you could realistically receive from posting on mutual_aid to bootstrap your way back to financial independence. It's all survival money. Survival isn't just coping with your hunger or exposure. It's also about coping with your feelings. Being homeless and impoverished is an incredibly lonely, dreadful and long existence. It's an experience filled with anguish, self abasement, and uncertainty. Using drugs to survive that isn't some moral failing, because raw-dogging such an existence is not a moral virtue.

By criticizing the purchase of drugs you are supposing that theru's a utility cost to that money that would fix the root causes. By conditioning aid on sobriety, you are demanding that people impoverished people should actively suffer. By complaining about the visibility of cries for help you are demanding that impoverished people should suffer in silence.

Your meager help is contingent on imposing harm because you cannot rid yourself of the ego and moral judgements when interacting with the most vulnerable members of society. You actively are showing your ass that you think poor people are inherently bad and must act a certain way to regain their "goodness". Nobody owes you atrocity porn to sate your own negative feelings about the ideas you hold.

Charity cannot be wasted because charity is a social relationship, it's not a measure of marginal utility. Charity can only be abused through deceit, but that's not what your criticizing. If you don't want to give money to people who will spend it on drugs that's your business, but don't pretend that there's some universal logic around the way people should act because of your personal feelings.