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How do you stand up to bullies? All kinds of bullies? Especially starting from beginner 10-15 year old levels? I'm too afraid of being roasted and haven't practiced. (hexbear.net)
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Also, what are your favorite comebacks to bullies?

I need to stop trying to change unchangeable people. I've been through so many bad faith people who dehumanize at every turn whenever they feel they won't get consequences. I need to make there be consequences for dehumanization.

Someone said to me "What if there's a predatory creep that you don't know how to socially shut down, and they feel emboldened because you don't roast them?" I said that's happened. They said i need to practice in lower risk scenarios. Maybe I get roasted for calling someone an asshole. One day that can turn into me and the dehumanizer going 50/50, me and them both getting half the roast. But to even get there I have to start by being roasted by bullies.

I won't get anywhere if I don't start clapping back and getting roasted many times by many assholes.

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[โ€“] Lyudmila@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That sounds the problem is the people in your life and not your lack of roasting skills.

[โ€“] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Well I grew up in that kind of enviroment, but now that I'm out of it im encountering other immature covert abusers. Who might not straight up have a personality disorders and who are simply immature downpunchers. They'll wait until I'm alone with them to strike. Now i have these windows of being bullied where I came start defending myself and not face mortal fear. Idk where to start.