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[–] But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 51 points 6 days ago (7 children)
[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 21 points 6 days ago (4 children)

I have a group of friends that I ride horses with who are wanting me to take a trip to Texas with them. I denied my invite, saying that I'd rather stay alive. As an openly gay, disabled woman who will be getting a total hysterectomy next month, I feel like I'd be vilified.

[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

My partner is from Texas. We've been dating for a year and a half and I have yet to visit his family...

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I wouldn't blame you if you never meet them. I've known a couple people from Texas who moved across the country to where I'm at just to get away from it all.

[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

His mom and a couple brothers have come out to visit at least, so I've met some of his family. I'm hoping his dad will come out at some point.

I just feel really bad about not going out to their family events and what not. I was actually going to go last Christmas, bought a plane ticket and everything. I went to the airport gate, turned around, and went home and cried instead...

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago

I wouldn't feel bad about it, especially if your partner isn't pushing for you to meet them. Sounds like the situation is a delicate one.

When I got back into contact with my father (who I cut ties with because he was a drunk/addict, was not mentally stable, and was absent and abusive), we met on my terms. Neutral ground and I brought my mom for backup. I cried so much before that meet and almost chickened out.

I don't really have any advice or whatever, but I totally understand the anxiety you feel. If you ever wanna talk about it, just dm me and I'll lend an ear.

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