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[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 49 points 4 days ago (5 children)

I think men don’t really understand how we just have a low-key sense of fear when we’re around men, just all the time.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 40 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I’m waiting for some man to come in here being all “not all men!”

Sure. Fine. Not all men.

But enough men that this is a big fucking worry.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 26 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I've had boyfriends shocked when they found out, during the course of getting intimate, that I actually do carry a knife with me at all times. They're such sheltered little dears, aren't they, able to go through life without worrying if that man over there is going to be the one who assaults you or worse because you "wore the wrong clothes" or "said the wrong thing" or even just "looked at him with the wrong expression"?

Yep and how much the fear is justified. It's constant. Don't go anywhere alone at night, text your friends when you're going on a date, be unbelievably careful how you reject a man etc etc etc

[–] forrgott 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

When I learned just how frequently sexual harassment and assault happens, it was an eye opening, and heart breaking, revelation.

[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al 4 points 3 days ago

Thanks for your comment, but this community is intended to be women-only, meaning only women are permitted to comment or post, so please refrain from continuing to comment here, thanks! 💚

[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I was about to comment this as well. I've always been kind of weak, but transitioning made me even more so and I quickly realized how easy it would be to get overpowered. Being around men definitely puts me on edge as well.

[–] Triasha@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

I gave my wife anxiety by moving through life blissfully unaware after transition. I was blessed to have only positive experiences for a time.

A few conversations and experiences later and I take more precautions.