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Recognising recurring characters is part of the charm for me, too. And also:
While your typical lemming's behaviour is not perfect, it's still leagues above your typical redditor's. For a start I used to dread the orange mail icon... as I saw it I immediately thought, "oh great here comes a dumb fuck distorting what I say". The bell icon is still a positive for me.
My own behaviour has been positively affected.
[cat analogy]I didn't declaw myself, but I don't feel as much of a need to extend my claws as before.[/cat analogy]In Reddit I used to pick fights all the time, I simply don't see the need to do so here, even when exposed to the same annoyances as before.Once your feed is curated, it's mostly fun stuff? I do see some politics, but not as much to feel like it's only political discussion here.
I actually trust the admin of my current instance to do what's the best for the users, within his capabilities. I couldn't trust the Reddit admins to die properly. And when the worst came to pass (disagreeing with how the admins of my older instance handle users), I know I don't need to either ditch everything or suck it up.
Absolutely : Setting block keywords, blocking communities you don't like is critical for having a good lemmy experience. Drinking from the firehose of everyones interest can both be overwhelming and monotonous sometimes.
I've removed all politics, all memes, all internet drama from my feed and I don't think I could go back.
From that, I guess you're browsing by "All"?
My approach was different: I browse by "Subscribed", and I'm subbed to ~200 comms. It takes a bit more effort but it allows me to have finer control over what I see, for example I subbed to one or two political and memes comms - it's just enough to get myself informed, but not enough to flood my feed.
Before lemmy-federate you couldn't get a community to your instance unless someone subscribed to it, so I was subscribing to everything... and my subscriptions wasn't curating my experience.
My community block list is MASSIVE, heh.
Ah, got it - I didn't realise you're running a personal instance. Now it makes sense what you're doing.