How's the family?
this post was submitted on 13 Jul 2025
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One of these days I will get around to writing my effort post about how having kids has really opened my eyes as how much gender really is a social construct. I’ve tried to avoid pushing gender norms on my kids but the reality is that society is so overwhelming in this regard.
Also, while I am very much on the side of “let kids pick their own stuff” (largely based on what I said above), my wife got my daughter her first backpack - a sparkly purple unicorn backpack. Which is fine in itself. But… I shouldn’t be, but I do feel kinda hurt I was not involved in the process. Because - and I know this is a bit odd - I am a bit of a backpack aficionado. I worked in an independent outdoor goods store for a couple years and got really involved with the backpacks. Kinda like, my “thing”. There wasn’t anything intentional, but still…
My kid has a growing collection of very mediocre bags and backpacks received as gifts. You'll definitely have an opportunity to help your kid pick out a nice backpack, and I hope the experience of picking it out with the help of a backpack-expert parent will make that one special (especially if you spice it up with some fun patches or pins)!