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The revolution the feeds the children gets my support!


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  1. DO NOT DOXX YOUR KIDS - Seriously, use an alt for this comm or keep it vague; otherwise we’re centralizing info about everyone’s kids into a single place that can be easily focused on.
  2. No jokes about dead kids - I don't care how much the romanovs deserved it, or how right John Brown was, save it for another comm.
  3. No antinatalism struggle sessions

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What is Matrix?

Matrix ≈ Discord - tracking + end-to-end encryption (by default)

While not 100% discord, it does support many of the features of discord (text chat, audio chats, video chats). It is also federated, similarly to how Hexbear/lemmy is federated. You can sign up for a matrix.org account. Like email, there are many different apps that can be used with your matrix account, but the official one is Element, this is what I use.

How to join the space

#Hexbear:matrix.org is a public matrix space, so you are free to join from wherever your home server might be (typically matrix.org). A space is a collection of rooms, joining a space gives you easy access to a list of rooms to join. The Hexbear space is an official space managed and moderated by members of our community. You'll find the parenting channel inside this space!

If you have a matrix account, skip to step 2

  1. Head to https://app.element.io/ and select "create account"
  2. Once your account is created, click the space link above, or in the community sidebar, which takes you to the shared space page.
  3. Find "Element" in the "Choose an app to continue" section and select "Continue".
  4. The page will attempt to launch Element if you have it installed, and direct you to the room; otherwise, you can select "continue in browser" to open Element in your browser.
  5. You will be prompted to join the channel in Element, click join, then you're in!

But why?

Real-time communication can be helpful when you're in the moment. The channel is configured to only show history from the moment you join, so there isn't a massive backlog of messages for someone to comb through the second they join. It's encrypted, and, while that doesn't mean too much when the room is public, it does mean the messages on the server side are secured.

Ultimately, I just want to offer many means of communication for parents here, and Matrix seems good to me.

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cross-posted from: https://news.abolish.capital/post/57280

When ByHeart infant formula was linked to a nationwide outbreak of infant botulism last fall, the company encouraged its customers to switch to another premium whole milk formula made by Nara Organics. Now Nara Organics, which has promoted the “thousands of tests” it runs on every formula batch, is recalling all of its whole milk organic powdered infant formula after the Centers for Disease…

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/8246456

Ah yeah more money than I will make in a lifetime, ez to start a family nowadays!

Key findings

  • The 18-year cost of raising a child grew to $303,418 after tax exemptions and credits, according to a LendingTree analysis, even though the cost of the first five years dipped slightly. That's an average of $16,857 annually over 18 years, up 1.9% from a year ago. However, annual costs in the first five years decreased slightly from $29,419 to $29,325 (or 0.3%), driven primarily by a dip in day care costs.
  • Hawaii is the most expensive state to raise a small child, with annual costs for the first five years reaching $40,342. Maryland and Massachusetts follow at $36,419 and $34,247. Conversely, annual costs are lowest in Mississippi ($17,148), Alabama ($18,019) and South Dakota ($18,622). All three states have infant day care costs below $10,000 annually, helping them rank among the cheapest states to raise a small child.
  • Fourteen states saw the annual cost of raising a small child rise at least 10.0%, including four with growth of 20.0% or more. Annual costs rose in 39 states and the District of Columbia. Nebraska (27.4%), Montana (24.5%), Maine (24.4%) and Wisconsin (23.3%) all saw significant year-over-year growth in the annual cost of raising a small kid.  - Families in six states are projected to spend more than $300,000 raising a child over 18 years, with Hawaii leading at $412,661, followed by Alaska ($365,047) and Maryland ($326,360). By contrast, projected costs are lowest in New Hampshire ($201,963), the District of Columbia ($202,115) and South Carolina ($204,213). Kansas and Alaska saw the largest increases in projected 18-year child-rearing costs, each rising 23.5% from last year's report.
  • Families spend an average of 21.9% of their income on the basic annual expenses to raise a small child, down from 22.6% in our 2025 analysis. The percentage is lowest in the District of Columbia (13.9%) and highest in Hawaii (27.4%).
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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by RedWizard@hexbear.net to c/parenting@hexbear.net
 
 

How's the family?

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by mathemachristian@hexbear.net to c/parenting@hexbear.net
 
 

I love the toniebox it's so great and I'm so so happy that we became parents before AI becomes a part of raising kids... This stuff is so bleak...

For those who don't know what a toniebox is, it's a speaker connected to the internet. You can buy figurines (or borrow them from the local library) which have an NFC code to identify the figurine to the box, download the audio associated with it and play it. Effectively the toddler can choose what they want to listen to by selecting the figurine. Seeing them choose which story or songs they want to listen to is very cool.

And if they change their mind, then can just autonomously select a different figurine.

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cross-posted from: https://ibbit.at/post/26153

We speak with Rachel Griffin Accurso, the educator known to millions around the world as Ms. Rachel, who has become a leading advocate for children in Gaza. Her YouTube channel for young children became wildly popular during the COVID-19 pandemic and today has more than 16 million subscribers. Since the start of Israel’s war on Gaza, Accurso has used her social media reach to speak out for…

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How's the family?

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Kids' music kinda fire these days

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How's the family?

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cross-posted from: https://ibbit.at/post/6339

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The kid is looked after mostly his mother > grandad > me (uncle) because the father lives far away due to work. I will have to look after him for a duration of 2 to 8 hours depending on the day.

When I look after him, he seems alright. There are difficulties at time but it is never too bad.

When he is with the other two he turns into a tantrum demon. He likes these two folks more than he does me so maybe he feels safer to be himself around them. Or maybe not. I don't know. With the mother I noticed that the tantrums increase but it is still within the realm of what I think to be normal or acceptable. With the grandad however shit becomes so fucking bad. The grandad has a habit of acquiescing to every demand the kid makes and I feel he has learnt to take advantage of this feature/bug because the kid will start making demands as soon as he sees the grandad. Some things he often asks for:

  • playing with the garden hose. He will cry when he is asked/made to come back.
  • playing with the tube of moisturiser. The kid likes to eat moisturiser for some reason. He will demand that the grandad give him the tube when it is kept out of reach. He wil cry when the tube is taken away from him.
  • this is the worst of all. He wants to watch YouTube Shorts on his grandad's phone. He doesn't ask for anyone else's phone, probably because no one else lets him pilot his phone by himself. When watching the shorts he will swipe up and down like a zombie. The grandad is impressed because he thinks the kid has learnt to operate a smartphone. To me it is a sight that is preposterous and horrifying beyond desription.

I don't want to say too much because I don't get along with the rest of my family and I don't want this to turn into a venting session.

I just want to hear if anyone here has experience with this or something like this.

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by FishLake@lemmygrad.ml to c/parenting@hexbear.net
 
 

The Fish Family will be embarking on our first family vacation sometime in the next coming weeks. It’ll be just the four of us: my partner, 4yo, 2yo, and myself. We’ll be on the road for a long time, around 15 hours over two days. And the same coming back.

So the question is… how the hell do we do this?

We’ve got pit stops factored in. We got snacks. We got toys. We got music and audiobooks and the nuclear option of an old busted iPad that may or may not work. But I’m nervous about how this is going to work.

Our kids take up the back seats. 4yo sits in a forward facing carseat. 2yo is read facing. My partner and I are tiny people. So our arms have a hard time as it is reaching back to aid our kids with anything. How’re all you all traveling with toddlers?

Edit: My partner has vetoed my idea of getting one of these. I married this person. Where do we even go from here? Reddit answers only.

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Honestly this poster got it right.

I look at the play and language that comes home from school with out 7yo and, well, yuck! So much focus on being a “rich guy”, comparison, taunting. It sucks! I recognize that there’s also the element of being seven and growing up in here, but I’m also a firm believer that play reflects the ambient noise children are exposed to.

We are looking at moving schools again but at some point it just feels like an honest reflection of a sick society.

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The grieving parents of a 7-year-old child who died hours after being hit by a car were charged with involuntary manslaughter after allowing him and his brother, 10, to walk home unaccompanied by an adult from a nearby grocery store.

The 76-year-old driver will not face any charges.

The Food Lion store is two blocks away from their home. The parents said the children were with their mother when they asked to meet their father at the store, and she allowed them to leave

Gastonia police declined to comment to NBC News, but said in a statement that “there is no evidence of speeding or wrongdoing on the part of the driver, therefore no charges have been filed. The driver continues to be cooperative and the incident remains under active investigation by the Gastonia Police Department’s Traffic Division.”

Ivey, the mother, told WSOC before her arrest that it was the first time had she let the children walk alone. “It was just devastating, I’m still in shock, I’m in shock,” she said. “It’s hard, I haven’t stopped crying; my husband hasn’t stopped crying. Honestly, I want justice for my baby.”

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(I want to preface this by saying my problems are of course absolutely nothing compared to what Palestinians and especially Palestinian parents must go through. I am only expressing these feelings in case there are others who feel similarly and don’t want to feel alone).

I have little kids. For over a year and a half now, I cannot shake this feeling. I don’t really know what to call it. But I cannot accept that my kids have this happy, comfortable life while there are little kids just like them being tortured to death under rubble, in fire, and by IOF bullets. Why am I in this position while Palestinian parents are in theirs? How can reality be this warped? I look at my kids, I can see them experiencing what thousands of kids in Gaza have had to endure, and my brain kinda shuts down. And in those moments it’s actually hard to be around my kids. This isn’t all the time - most often I’m able to be a good, present parent. But in that state it’s like I don’t want to be reminded that children even exist in this world.

It’s like, sometimes when my kid is laughing I can only thing about how there’s another kid half a world away who is screaming in pain, or experiencing terror and sadness in a way I cannot comprehend.

I was raised as an evangelical Christian. The main reason I deconverted years ago was I could not accept the idea of eternal conscious torment in hell for all unbelievers. I could not accept that that was how the universe worked. That was nearly 15 years ago. I hadn’t even thought about it much until these last 19 months. But I recognize the feeling since it’s all coming back. I see kids being tormented and killed, and it’s like my brain cannot accept this is reality.

Seeing that little light inside my children, and know that thousands of little lights are getting snuffed out… I don’t know, I just don’t have any more words or tears.

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Wheres small business owner Hooper supposed to dump his trash? No wonder the air smells "sweet"

Don't vote for liberals kids

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My SO was going to use some cash our kids got easter egg hunting to buy some kid supplies. I always put the cash I open in cards for the kids in their piggy bank.

She admits she always uses that cash to buy them stuff.

I admitted that I thought we were both filling their piggy bank.

She has requested that I ask "the communists [you] talk to" what they do (haha).

Bare in mind, this really only applies to kids who have no concept of money. Obviously, we both agree once they have that concept, its theirs to do as they please.

(This isn't a heated disagreement BTW just a funny revelation)

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Linked thread put the bee in my bonnet.

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