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Uh... What's the tea app?
Edit: from what I can gather based on the last link attached to this post it seems to be some kind of app for women to talk about men they've dated. Why that needs drivers license uploads is a whole other question and definitely should have raised some massive red flags for anyone thinking about using it.
"talk"
They try to get a pass on this by saying it's about "safety" and reporting creeps. But it's filled with women posting dudes and gossip. It gives me the same vibes as those sites back in the day that were shut down because they were essentially revenge porn sites. Same shit different form.
Yes, trying to warn other women about a man you dated who abused you or gave off weird vibes is definitely the same as getting your nudes or porn video of yourself leaked against your will onto the public internet for everyone to see
Yea cause that's what these sites totally were doing.
Everyone knows what these places were. 4chan are fucking scumbags but so are the people using these gossip sites. They're both cut from the same cloth
Oh hey look, the straw man is waving at you
Found this article after a quick web search: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kateoflahertyuk/2025/07/24/what-is-tea-the-viral-women-only-app-with-1-million-downloads/
It's an app where women upload photos of men they're dating to get "the tea" on them (red flags, catfishing, etc.). I always wondered if something like this existed. Sucks that it has to, sucks even more if their users are being targeted like this.
Talk about adding to the toxic nature of the world. Anyone thinking we should have a digital record of social reputation isn't thinking it through.
It's a reaction to the toxic nature of the world, what it adds is a drop in the bucket in exchange for avoiding abusers
If this was an app where men post photos of women without their permission, you would he losing your mind over how gross it is.
Women aren't routinely abusing men with dating apps so yeah I would be weirded out lmao
Jesus you definitely need to get out more.
Lmao
Strong disagree. Just creating another bully culture.
What's the alternative to warning strangers about predators?
Contacting police?
I hear that, I just don't think this is the way to go about it. Digital reputation system that lives on some corporate dataset is just ripe for terrible problems. It's terrible for everyone's privacy when we normalize this shit.
What about people who don't use this app, do they not deserve to be protected, do they deserve to suffer because they didn't use this app?
Let's be real, this app is about gossip, it's not about protecting women and keeping them safe, it's literally in the name it's about "spilling the tea" aka gossip.
As usual on Lemmy, the answer is just for women to shut up and listen to what the men want
Just goes to show how lost you are in your feminist supremacy bubble, that even leftist spaces like lemmy think this thing is creepy.
This already happened in my country, Secret was an app that got huge while I was finishing high school, an anonymous platform for people to confess private stuff, it rapidly became bully culture and libel central.
If someone doesn't want to date you because of gossip they read online, then you dodged a bullet. The garbage took itself out.
Do you think X should be shut down because some users use it irresponsibly?
Reddit?
Lemmy?
Alright, but none of that was really relevant to this comment. Why are you soapboxing on it?
You sort of started it with your comment. I don't want to be around people that feel the need to document everything on a website. Please inform those around you so they can decide to opt out.
But are they abusers? You sure they ain't just getting revenge on an ex, making them undateable. How do you even validate this information?
It's gossip and toxic. Have you not seen what these places are on Facebook?
I mean. A social database I feel is toxic in of itself. It's makes forgiveness harder, it makes changing yourself harder. What's the point in changing if people are gonna look you up in a database like this and perhaps forevermore treat you as if you are like that in the present day, forever. It assumes that humans are unchanging, that once a shitty person always a shitty person.
The reason that up until now an app like that hasn't existed is because it is an absolutely awful idea if you spend more than 10 seconds thinking about it.
It's ripe for abuse in fact I would be surprised if even half of the reports are legitimate. Isn't absolutely god awful system and whoever thought this up is an absolute prat, who seriously needs to get outside and actually experience real life and real people.
The original incarnation on Facebook got sued for posting libel and shut down. There's no judge of truth on these apps it's all she said and no he said.
It doesn't have to.
The drivers license thing is likely due to a law passed by the UK a few days ago requires all mature content to be behind an age check. And not a "Are you 18: Yes / No", more like "we will check using ID and photos of you".
It's the most hated piece of legislation in a while, with already 100 000 petition votes in 3 days to repeal it.
None of the driver licenses shown in the screenshot are UK style.
No idea why they were collecting identification then.
Even worse, since the hackers got a bunch of the data at once, the company must have held onto those pictures long after they registered people to their service, which they likely didn't need to do.
Oh yes the famous state of Colorado UK.
UK driving licences do not look like that, they don't have US states on them (major clue), are green, and if the person in the photo actually looks like a living human and not corpse, it gets sent back as unacceptable.
Actually UK licenses are pink. Provisionals are green
Almost 250k petition votes now, 150k more votes in the past day alone.
Oh, so they started requiring that in the last couple days?
The app required ID uploads ostensibly to verify that you were a woman signing up, men were not allowed to join for obvious reasons
Aside from the fact that it was stored in a public database, there's no need to store photos of the IDs at all. The account can just be marked as verified and move on.
Also I doubt that measure would keep a man out if he really wanted to join...